Friday, June 3, 2011

June, 2011

HEART TO HEART NEWSLETTER
ENCOURAGEMENT TO WOMEN
http://heartfilledhome.blogspot.com
A categorized storehouse of information for you from past newsletters, plus another blog for recipes



Compiled especially for you with love by Lois Breneman  
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June, 2011 Fathers, Mothers, Miracle Blanket, Special Tips, Aluminum, Sponge-ability
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NOTE TO YOU
THE CHRISTIAN FATHER'S INFLUENCE ON HIS CHILDREN
FATHER'S DAY UNIFORM SHIRT
FUN KIDS' CRAFTS
 FUN SPRING CRAFT IDEAS
MOMENTS FOR MOM
MOTHERHOOD IS MESSY.
MIRACLE BLANKET FOR INFANTS
KEY LIME PIE IN A CUP
SPECIAL TIPS AND TIDBITS
AVOIDING ALUMINUM IN OUR BODIES
USING THE "SPONGE-ABILITY" OF TODDLERS TO TEACH THEM SCRIPTURE VERSES
SUCH A FUN ACTIVITY FOR KIDS - AT SO LITTLE A COST
PRECIOUS GEMS
                                  
NOTE TO YOU
        Although I try to get the newsletter sent by the first of each month, it was impossible this time.  We arrived home from a vacation in Missouri and a brief visit with family just yesterday, in time for me to put the finishing touches on this newsletter today, in between unpacking and laundry. 
        We thank the Lord for His protection as we arrived for our first day of vacation about one hundred miles away from Joplin on the very evening that deadly tornado hit.  How we pray for those families in their devastation! 
        My husband and I were able to see and hold our grandson, Andrew, once more, and enjoyed being there again so soon after our last visit.  Andrew weighs about nine pounds now and is doing great after a very rough start to his life!  He and his brother are absolutely adorable!
~ Daniel and Andrew's Grammie

THE CHRISTIAN FATHER'S INFLUENCE ON HIS CHILDREN
by Lois Breneman - 2011 - Heart to Heart

The relationship a child has with his father greatly impacts his earliest concept of God.  Whether the child's concept is positive or negative depends heavily on the father's influence.  In the Bible fathers were known to be the supreme authoritative figures in their families.  With just a word from the fathers, they could determine the fate of their offspring.  We see example of good godly fathers in the Bible, as well as terrible examples.

Jesus must have known the tendency of many fathers to provoke their children, frustrating them, even causing them to lose trust in their daddies.  Mostly it begins with playful fun, but can sometimes go too far.  Tickling is an example.  A child might be tickled to the point of desperation or helplessness.  Even toddlers instinctively feel “tricked” when fathers provoke them to the point of anger, whether is may be through tickling or another way.

Just after Paul advises children in the sixth chapter of Ephesians to obey their parents in the Lord because it is right, he advises fathers not to provoke their children to wrath but to bring them up in the training and admonition to the Lord.  Children need to be able to trust their fathers in every aspect of life, just as a child jumps into his father’s arms without any fear of being dropped.  This trust needs to be carried out in every aspect of the father/child relationship.

Scripture also presents a tender side to fatherhood.  Both Jacob and David expressed and displayed deep sorrow in the loss of their sons, Joseph and Absalom in Genesis 37:33-35 and II Samuel 13:35-39.


Both Noah and Joseph, the earthly father of Jesus, cared so much about their children that they followed God’s detailed direction in providing escapes for their children when danger was near (Genesis 7:5 and Matthew 2;13-23).

Even biblical fathers made big mistakes.  Not one was perfect.  Eli did not discipline his sons and their extremely wayward actions were far from being in accordance to godly sons (I Samuel 2:12 and 3:13).  David certainly did not live an exemplary life before his children, sinning greatly, nor did he spend enough time with his children as recorded in II Samuel 12:13-14 and 24:10.

The best earthly father is one who has a close fellowship with the Heavenly Father through the daily reading of God’s Word where he can find His  unlimited wisdom and instruction to live the life God wants him to live (Ephesians 5:15-20).

God's Word teaches fathers the importance of making their children feel wanted (Psalm 127:3-5).  

They are told to instruct their children (
Deut. 6:1-9; Prov. 4:1; and Prov. 6:20).

Fathers are instructed to train their children (Psalm 78:5-7; Prov. 22:6).


Fathers are told to correct their children (Prov. 13:24).

The shelter and security given by the father should provide freedom for his children to grow and develop.  Children need to be allowed to face challenges and tasks that teach responsibility, rather than being so overprotected. 

A mother has an important part in fashioning a good father, by showing love, acceptance, and treating him with respect, a vital need of all men. By allowing and encouraging him to be the leader in the home, and not taking that role herself, she shows respect for his authority, rather than undermining it.  The wife's encouragement, reflective interaction and supportive interest in her husband's role as the leader of the home make all the difference in the world to him, helping to build him up and make him a wonderful father, as well as a wonderful husband.

FATHER'S DAY UNIFORM SHIRT
by Amanda Formaro - www.familycorner.com - Used by permission
We've all seen the homemade shirt and tie cards that are made for dads who work in the office, but what about the dads that don't wear a tie to work? If your dad works in the blue collar sector, then this adorable uniform card is perfect for him!

What You Need
1 sheet of blue construction paper
1 sheet white construction paper
dark blue marker
scissors
glue stick
3 buttons
white craft glue

What you do
Roll blue construction paper so that each end touches each other, then crease to fold. This will create the shirt.

Cut a piece of white construction paper to fit inside the blue shirt, just enough to cover the back panel. Glue in place.

Fold down the corners of each blue flap to create the color (see photo).

Draw a rectangular pocket on the right side flap with pencil, then outline with blue marker. Use scissors to cut the top of the pocket open.

From the remaining white construction paper, cut a piece small enough to slide into the pocket and write "#1 DAD" on it.


FUN KIDS' CRAFTS
www.atozkidsstuff.com  
- Used by permission

Daily Fun
Make a 3d flower
Watch a video on how to create this flower.
Butterfly Mask
Color and cut out the mask.
Handprint Butterfly Craft
Make a butterfly from a child's handprint cutouts
Dog Card
Make a dog shaped dog for a dog lover.
Recycled Plant Pots
Use cans, bottles and jars as planters.
Paper Flowers (School-age)
Follow the pictures to fold paper and create a unique flower.



When I think of Spring I think of butterflies, caterpillars, flowers, pin wheels, rainbows, fresh fruit and veggies coming soon,  and pretty much anything with color.  Speaking of caterpillars Garrett and Lexi have 4 pet caterpillars that they caught and named.  One has even made a small cocoon.  They tell me it will be a moth and are a little disappointed.  It is SO neat to see God’s hand of creation everywhere we look!!!

Here are some fun things you can do to make your Spring a little more Springy.
Shown on Valerie's blog: Fruit rainbow (This was included in Heart to Heart before, but this picture shows the whole beautiful story), butterfly snack, flowers to display and flowers to eat, pinwheels, Cheerio rainbow, cupcakes and butterfly note cards.

MOMENTS FOR MOM
by Elisabeth K. Corcoran - June 2011 - www.elisabethcorcoran.com - Used by permission

My daughter came home with her freshman course schedule this week.  I almost fainted.  I am in complete and utter denial that Sara is going into high school.  My son likes to point out that she’ll be able to get her driver’s permit this year.  He does that to watch me either tear up or freak out, depending on my mood.

I do not have young children anymore.  And there are days when I barely even remember what having young children feels like.  

So I’ve got one concept for you today.  Cherish.  Soak in.  Remember.  Be intentional.  And I say all these things knowing that I’m sure someone said them to me.  Knowing that I didn’t always succeed in doing them.  But my hope is that you listen more carefully than I did.

It is more than a cliché that time flies.  I remember enough about the little kid years to remember that I sometimes thought the day I was in would never end.  And now I look back and realize that there are hundreds of days and thousands of moments that I can’t even recall, because they all went so fast.

What I would give for one day – in the middle of my life right now – of going back in time and reliving a typical stay-at-home mommy day with my toddlers.  Just one day.  

And this is maybe what I would do differently if I could, maybe what I would tell my younger, more tired self…

Your children are absolute gifts.  Your children adore you.  Your children are watching you.  Your children are more important than laundry, than vacuuming, than time on the computer.  Your children need you to love them well, need you to mean what you say and say what you mean.  Your children need you to love Jesus with all your heart.  It’s okay to sit on the couch with them and cuddle for five more minutes…in just a few years, they may not want to do this. In just a few more years, everything will feel different.  Just sit.  Just watch.  Just listen.  Just take it all in.  

And I’m saying this to myself today as I look down the road and realize that in just a few more years, my kids will be gone, on their own.  I still need to just sit, just watch, just listen, just take it all in.

Pray for eyes to see your children the way God does, and then…enjoy them. 


MOTHERHOOD IS MESSY.
by Lauren Beckner

The Beckner Bulletin: Motherhood is Messy. 
http://darrenandlauren.blogspot.com - Used by permission


This week, I was supposed to log on to my summer courses and introduce myself, with a brief description of my life. As all of my classmates posted about their awesome jobs in the military, or the Pentagon, or for the FBI... I was trying to figure out how to describe my life. I finally posted up something lame like Hi, my name is Lauren and I stay at home with my two young kids and I enjoy exercising and baking and reading, and I look forward to learning with you all. But then I thought that seemed so... insufficient. Here is what I should have said.
Motherhood is so messy. If you walked in my house today, you would notice...
... that while it is clean...ish... there are hallmarks of children everywhere. Handprints on windows (and walls!), art on the fridge, a smattering of toys in random locations, sippy cups drying in the sink, and mismatched flip flops flung off by the back door...right next to the backpack in the floor...where it shouldn't be.

You would also notice that at 2:53 pm, I'm eating lunch while paying bills in a rare moment of quiet. And I'm about to squeeze in a few phone interviews while there is no background of Elmo and "MOM! Mom! Mommy! Momma! Lauren!" Next to me, on my desk, you would see a bouquet of pink baby roses that my sweet girl picked out for me in Kroger last night and came home shouting "Happy Mothers' Day!" even though that day is long past. You would also see a pair of broken sunglasses, smashed by chubby baby hands. And a few books of a political nature that I've yet to crack open for next week's summer courses.

You wouldn't see an ipod anywhere, because I'm pretty sure it was misplaced by someone pretending it was a cell phone. And there is a colony of ants feeding on toddler crumbs under the dining room table (where do they come from so instantly?!). You would notice that "Going on a Bear Hunt" and "If You Give a Moose a Muffin" are on the couch, because we've only read them 734 times since Saturday, when we checked them out from the library.

You would notice that while I completed the Ironman (26.2 miles running, 112 biking, and 1.2 swimming), I still have the signature baby pooch from carrying two little humans within me. I quit kidding myself that it would go away quite some time ago. You would probably notice a smudge of snot on my shoulder from comforting a baby's boo-boo, and see a small streak of mascara under one eye where I got the sniffles in the car after hearing a song about making memories with your daughter. And there might be a chance that I look tired.

Motherhood is messy.
In spite of all of those things, you would probably also notice the myriad of pictures plastered to the walls, and the preschool progress report on proud display. You would see a sweet homemade candle holder with daisies painted on using fingerprints, and if you stuck around long enough, when naptime was over... you'd see me greeted with huge smiles and bear hugs and "Mommy, what are we doin' next?!" You would probably hear some sort of singing and tons of giggles. Dinner would be served on plasticware. There would be games played, kisses given, and bedtime prayers.

Motherhood is messy, but I wouldn't trade it for any other job in the entire world. Not even the freakin' Pentagon. I'm so thankful for these silly monkeys that let me have the greatest. job. ever.



MIRACLE BLANKET FOR INFANTS
This is a swaddling wrap for infants.  It helps them sleep really well, so it's a great gift for tired moms too!  Thanks to Meagan DeLong in North Carolina for this wonderful information!   Be sure to click on the miracle wrap website to see how to wrap up your sweet baby for a good restful sleep!  This reminds me of the phrase, "Snug as a bug in a rug!"

I looked it up online and it seemed like people are making Miracle Blankets with a stretchy material.  I think Jersey Knit would work well.  I've used it to make a moby-style wrap before it and it works great for that.  Other people online mentioned using muslin, a woven knit, or crinkle gauze.  We got our moby wrap at Babies R Us and I'll bet you can find it at other baby stores as well.  
Hope this is helpful,
Meagan

You will need:
24" of 60" wide stretchy knit fabric

You will cut your 24" of fabric into these pieces:
Main Body: 14” wide x 22” long (stretchy along 22" length)
Pouch: 14” wide x 12” long (stretchy along 12" length)
Arm Wraps: 8” wide x 12” long (stretchy along 8" width)
Longer Side Wrap: 10” wide x 36” long (stretchy along 36" length)
Shorter Side Wrap: 10” wide x 21” long (stretchy along 21" length)
Here is an online tutorial I found; click on the pictures for the directions.
*One seamstress mentioned that she used this tutorial but "changed the direction of the stretch in the tutorial. The stretch now should go across the 8" width instead of down the 12" length. This should help contain those little wigglers better."

Click on the miracle wrap website to see exactly how it works!


KEY LIME PIE IN A CUP
Thanks to Michelle Haines in Virginia for this recipe!
(Note from Lois: Those who prefer more sweetness could simply add more organic sugar or honey.  Be sure never to give honey to babies under one year of age, because it may cause botulism, which can be deadly.)

24 oz. Plain Yogurt
Juice of 2 small limes
Zest of 1 lime
2 Tbsp. organic sugar or honey

Oh my goodness is it good! If you want it thicker, use strained or Greek yogurt. Tossing in a little chopped mint is good too. Putting this mixture into an ice cream maker, and topping with berries, even better!


SPECIAL TIPS AND TIDBITS

Solution for Using Less Sugar in Fruit Pies ~ If you add 1/4 to 1/2 teaspoon of baking soda in a fruit pie, you can cut down on the usual amount of sugar needed and still have the desired sweetness in the finished product.  If the recipe calls for one cup of sugar, used just half a cup!  This works in fruit crisps as well.

How to Make an Effective Stinkbug Trap ~ A simple and inexpensive solution to conquering the stinkbug problem!  All you need is an empty liter bottle, razor blade, electrical tape, masking tape, and LED light.  Thanks to Cindy Hodges in Virginia for this great tip! 
 
Sweet Peach Tea ~ If you haven't tried Celestial Seasonings Peach Tea, you're missing something so delicious, even if you're a not a Southerner!  Add a small amount of stevia for sweetening, and you'll have a wonderful refreshing sweet tea without sugar or harmful artificial sweeteners or calories!  Peppermint tea is another favorite of mine!  Make a whole pitcher and refrigerate.


Sea Salt will not cause your body to retain fluid as regular salt will.  Sea salt can be found in many grocery stores right next to regular table salt, in a similar round box with a spout, or it can be found in health food stores.  Since salted butter does not contain sea salt, one could purchase unsalted butter (on sale, of course) and add sea salt and olive oil to it, mixing it in a blender for a much healthier and spreadable butter. 

Quart Jar with a Pouring Spout ~ Save your empty round salt boxes for this great tip.  Using an empty, round salt box, lay a lid from a canning jar on top and trace around the lid.  Cut out the circle from the cardboard top of the salt box, including the spout.  Put this cardboard lid on the top of the canning jar and screw on a canning ring.  Use pint or quart-sized canning jars with spouts for pouring dry substances, such as bulk sea salt, homemade mixes, as well as herbs and spices.

Oatmeal Bought in Bulk for Good Health and a Good Price ~ We purchase 25 or 50 pound bags of old fashioned rolled oats for much less per pound than the boxes on the grocer's shelf.  When our one son picked up some for us at a great store near his home before coming for a visit, the cashier seriously asked if he had a horse!  We all know whole grains are so much healthier and much less expensive than boxed cereals.  My husband eats oatmeal almost every morning and I love to make granola with it as well.  I store the bulk rolled oats in oatmeal boxes that were saved from prior purchases.

Granola Snack Bags to Eat on the Run ~ After making a big batch of granola, I like to package a lot of it in Ziplock snack bags with a plastic spoon inside.  That makes a great snack while riding in the car, relaxing on the beach, having fun sailing, hiking, or even shopping or running errands.

Popsicle Molds don't need to be ones you buy!  Prescription containers or even containers for breast milk (when no longer needed) provide a perfect mold for homemade popsicles.  You may want to ask friends and relatives to save some containers for you.  Remove the lids, line up on a tray, and add the popsicle recipe (hopefully a healthy mixture).  Then for holding up the popsicle sticks (saved from previously bought popsicles), lay waxed paper over the top of filled containers, with a knife make a slit for the sticks in the center of each mold.  Insert the sticks and freeze the popsicles for a delicious treat!  Although the waxed paper should hold the sticks in place, you might want to set a timer to check them before they completely freeze, in case any of the sticks are not centered and straight.

Potato Salad Trick ~ Elinor Wright in Virginia told me how she thought of a new way to make potato salad quickly, other than that quick potato peeling trick mentioned in the newsletter earlier (check the categories on the blog to locate it).  After the potatoes and eggs were cooked and peeled, but still whole, she used a potato masher with square dividers for dicing by pressing it down once through each potato and egg.  She said it worked great.

Egg Carton Lunches ~ Wash Styrofoam egg cartons with hot soapy and water.  Fill each of the 12 sections with food, such as nuts, raisins, granola, grapes, almond butter (for dipping grapes into), crackers, small cookies, cheese cubes, bites of a cut-up sandwich, etc.  A single food may take up more than one section.  Place a napkin roll on top with any plastic utensils needed to eat the foods provided and secure with rubber bands.   These are great to take on a picnic, a road trip, or just for a fun and different lunch!

Double Batching with a Friend for a Night Off ~ If you have a good friend who is also a close neighbor, you could help each other out by providing a night off from cooking!  Sound good to you?  You would each cook a double batch of a main dish or meat on a different night each week - one for your family and one to share with her family.  Whatever the number in the largest family, each would cook double that amount, possibly even providing leftovers for hubby's lunch the next day.  Each would chose one night a week (or every other week) to cook and share with the other, giving you both an almost free evening of cooking.  Before you begin, it would be a good idea to get together and make a list of possible dishes to make, so both families are happy with the food choices.

Heart-Shaped Muffins or Cupcakes ~ In this age of cupcake craze, you can make heart-shaped cupcakes and muffins.  Line a muffin tin with baking liners.  Place a small marble in each muffin tin, between the baking liner and the muffin tin (not inside the baking liner).  Pour in cake or muffin batter, filling half to two-thirds full, and bake as directed. 

Seashell Magnets ~ Either find or purchase shells. Finding them myself is such fun!  Purchase a package of small magnets.  Using a small amount of hot glue on each shell, glue them to the magnets.  Hold it for a few seconds until secure.  These are fun to make and fun to give away.


AVOIDING ALUMINUM IN OUR BODIES
by Lois Breneman - 2011 - Heart to Heart

Baking Powder without Aluminum

Most baking powder contains aluminum, which research tells us can cause Alzheimer's Disease.  Patients with the disease have been found to have larger amounts of aluminum in their bodies.  Rumford Baking Powder has none, but you can quickly make your own to save money by mixing 2 parts cream of tartar with 1 part baking soda and storing it in small amounts. 

But the least expensive way of all is this, because you use 25% less of the ingredients with good results:
You can substitute 1/4 tsp. baking soda + 1/2 tsp. cream of tartar for 1 tsp. baking powder for good results!

Baking Soda as an Effective Deodorant
Avoid antiperspirants altogether, if you want to avoid aluminum.  For an effective alternative, simply put about 1/2 to 1 teaspoon of baking soda in your hand.  Add a few drops of water to make a paste, and rub under each arm.  Crystal stones are also available, but sometimes cause a rash and cost quite a bit more.  Baking soda can get rid of and prevent underarm odor for several days with just one application.

Avoid Aluminum Cookware and Bakeware
Or if you do have aluminum bread pans, it would be helpful to line them with waxed paper so you do not ingest aluminum.  For aluminum cake pans, trace a circle of waxed paper for the bottom each pan to avoid aluminum and to ensure that the cake will come out of the pan very easily.


USING THE "SPONGE-ABILITY" OF TODDLERS TO TEACH THEM SCRIPTURE VERSES

by Lois Breneman - 2011 - Heart to Heart

We all know how toddlers are like sponges in that they constantly repeat what they hear.  That can surely keep the parents and grandparents on their toes.  Toddlers memorize sections or entire story books that are read to them, things they hear on television, and even entire commercials.  So why not use that "sponge-ability" of theirs for a much more rewarding and even an eternal benefit?  Hiding God's Word in their hearts! 

When I spent a month with our three year old grandson recently, I was amazed at how quickly he learned these first five scripture verses!  Our children were the same way when they were small.  So Mothers, take advantage our those young minds that are able to memorize so quickly!  Later those scriptures will still be in their heart, ready to pop up when they need them the most.

A convenient way for you to include teaching scripture memorization might be to do it just before story time.  Then review at home throughout the day or while driving in the car.  If the references are too difficult to begin with, teach your small child just the first part of the verse for now, and as he grows older, add more, then the references.  But you might find those little tots will surprise you as they learn long verses as well as the references without any trouble at all.

Writing down the scripture verses and making a little booklet out of the ones he memorizes will be a rich treasure.  Including just one picture for each scripture will help your child be able to quote a verse with only a look at a picture.  Laminating the pages and hand sewing them together with ribbon sewn in punched holes along the left side will tie it all together and be cherished by both the child and parent for years to come.

The following are just a few scripture verses to begin this exciting journey with your children or grandchildren, but there are so many more that would be appropriate for young children. 

Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another. - Ephesians 4:32

Children, obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. - Ephesians 6:1

Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure and whether it be right. - Prov. 20:11

When I am afraid, I will trust in Him. - Psalm 56:3

We love Him because He first loved us. - I John 4:19

Casting all you care upon Him, for He cares for you. - I Peter:5:7

Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking lies. - I Peter 3:10
   
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life - John 3:16

For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God - Romans 3:23

For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord - Romans 6:23


Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. - James 4:8

As a supplement to your own parental teaching of scripture memorization, Steve Green also has several enjoyable CD's with scripture put to music.  You may be surprised at home much children will soak in the scriptures and learn many principles from God's Word as they listen while they play with their toys!  Mary Rice Hopkins also ministers to children and has many CD's available for little ones (www.maryricehopkins.com).  So why not let Mary or Steve fill your children's minds with eternal values, while you catch up on some housework?

SUCH A FUN ACTIVITY FOR KIDS - AT SO LITTLE A COST
by Lois Breneman - 2011 - Heart to Heart


"Tricky Worm" (1 worm) at Dollar General for $1
"Squiggly Worms" (1 large worm and one baby worm) at A.C. Moore for $1.50


These worms are furry, soft, colorful, and have googly eyes.  You jerk the worm along with an invisible thread.  So much fun!  You can make one crawl out of a slipper or shoe, out of a hole in an afghan, out from a shirt sleeve or collar, up through the crack under a door (my 3 year old grandson's idea).  It's fun just looking around for places to make your worm mysteriously craw out from, and seeing the reaction of others. 

Even older children would love this interaction, as they play with their younger brothers and sisters!


Set up a puppet show, using a cardboard box, with a hold cut out for performances.  If a child holds the fuzzy worm in his hands with about 3-4 inches sticking above his hands, another person can jerk the thread, making it look like the worm is dancing all around in the child's hand.  You can also have two worms talking to each other, quoting scripture verses, with the child or you doing the talking, of course.  Two or three worms dancing on the floor to music is hilarious.  

Tips:
1) The worm looks more realistic if the string is jerked in short, gentle jerks.
2) In case the string breaks, invisible thread can be used to make a quick repair.
3) By making the invisible string much longer, you could have fun by making the worm crawl from across the room, when others in the room have no idea about your prank!
4) Give names to the worms which come in different colors.

Good Uses for the Squirmy Worm:
1) A great inexpensive surprise or reward for your children!
2) A great activity for an older child to have fun with younger siblings!
3) A wonderful trick for a babysitter to have up her sleeve!

PRECIOUS GEMS
Ladies, thanks so much for your permission to include these Precious Gems!  Kids say the funniest things!  Please keep sending them to be included in Heart to Heart and the blog, http://heartfilledhome.blogspot.com.  I just LOVE them!  Children's minds are so imaginative, aren't they?  It seems like they continually keep coming up with new lines!

After sleeping very uncomfortably in a too small bed with a snoring dear hubby, I decided to sleep in our guest room to get a couple of nights of peaceful sleep.  My very observing (doesn't miss a thing) 6 yr. daughter Jacqueline said, " You know if you keep sleeping here, you are not going to get to kiss daddy and go on dates with him anymore!"  I assured her that I was still kissing daddy and enjoying dates even better now as I had got caught up on my sleep.  ~ Robyn in Chile 

I just finished putting "tape circles" on 5 yr. old Austin's hands and feet per his request so he could "stick to every wall like Spiderman." ~ Jennie in Ohio

Austin (5): Mommy, open your mouth! 
Mommy: Open my mouth?  Why?
Austin: Just open your mouth, Mommy.
*Mommy opens mouth.*
Austin: (Talking into my mouth) Hi Baby.  Hello, Baby.  How are you doing in there?  You'll be out soon! ~ Jennie in Ohio

Nap time is over and Anna (3) informs me, "Mamma, I didn't sleep at all!  But it's okay ... I'll be on the lookout for tiredness." ~ Lauren in Virginia
As I unfastened my four year old granddaughter's braids and ran my fingers through her wavy hair, I said, "Wow, how pretty your hair is!"  She leaned into the mirror.  "Yeah, and it looks even prettier with a smile on my face." ~ Eileen in Virginia   www.eileenrife.com

The following four gems are by 3 year old Savannah, daughter of Lauren in Virginia:

"Mimi, I asked Jesus into my heart."
"You did? Were you with your mom?"
"No, I was supposed to be taking a nap."
"What did you say?"
"I said hello, God. I have been very bad. I need you to come into my heart and wash it clean. And then he said yes ma'am. And I said thank you. And God said you are so very welcome."
Hmm.

"Dad, I don't want you to come to my preschool program."
"Why not?"
"Because you are on crutches and when my friends see you, they will all point and laugh."

"Mom, that girl eats a lot. And if she keeps eatin' like that, her gonna get a big ol' belly when she grows up!"

"I don't want to take a bath because I don't want to wash off my tan!"
"Your tan won't wash off."
"Oh good. I love it. On my legs, I'm black. But my bottom is just like a little white girl!"

Daniel's (3) daddy was carrying him downstairs one morning, along with some other items, when Daniel looked at him and said in wonder and amazement, "I didn't know you could hold a trash can, underpants, and a little boy at the same time!" ~ Lois

Daniel's mommie thought she had left her glasses in a certain spot, but later found them on the bookshelf and asked Daniel (3) if he had moved them to the bookshelf.  He replied, "No, I don't move expensive glasses."  Smart kid! ~ Lois

My grandson, Daniel (3), spied a bug crawling on the floor and was chasing him with a shoe in his hand.  After a short while he reported to us, "He stopped!" ~ Lois

Precious Gem

A teacher gave her class of second graders a lesson on the magnet and what it does. The next day in a written test, she included this question:

"My full name has six letters. The first one is M. I pick up things. What am I?"

When the test papers were turned in, the teacher was astonished to find that almost 50 percent of the students answered the question with the word Mother
.

Monday, May 2, 2011

Our Miracle Grandbaby

by Lois Breneman (Grandmother Lois)

The month of April has been like a whirlwind for our family, but the Lord's presence has been with us all the way. He has been so faithful in answering the prayers of hundreds of family and friends, as well as many we have never met, as we all prayed for our precious newborn grandson, Andrew.

Our fourth grandbaby was due to be born on May 10, however, he was born five weeks early by C-section, after his mother felt less movement, fearing he was in some type of danger. We are all so thankful that our daughter-in-law, Rachael, noticed in the middle of the night how his lack of movement might be a legitimate concern. It definitely was, and that decision to go to the doctor's as a safeguard early the next morning may have saved his life. His heart rate had dropped from 140 down to 65 and back up while in the doctor's office, and an ultrasound showed that he wasn't responsive to stimulation, so Rachael, was immediately hospitalized for a C-section.

We were so thankful that Andrew was born at a whopping 5 pounds, 6 ounces - rather hefty for a preemie, arriving five weeks early! But in the next few weeks so many physical alarms were set off in his tiny body, and each one was a mystery to the finest doctors. They didn't see any reason for him not to be breathing at birth, but that is how his first few seconds of life began. A few compressions on his tiny chest started him breathing right away, and he was on a ventilator for six hours. When the doctors found his kidneys were not functioning properly, he was taken to Children's Hospital an hour and a half from home when he was less than two days old. His lungs and intestines were not quite ready to do their job, but those problems soon straightened out as so many prayers went up for him. 


Next he was not producing enough blood platelets, and a blood transfusion twice, before he started making enough of his own. That was a rather uncertain time. We were all relieved when an MRI showed there was no brain damage. Again the doctors were puzzled, because Andrew seemed very healthy, but these malfunctions kept popping up. 

The first two weeks were like a roller coaster ride with a good report one day and a bad one the next. He was also on a feeding tube because he was too tired and sleepy to take the full amount when nursing or taking breast milk from a bottle. So whatever he didn't drink on his own was put down the feeding tube, so he wouldn't lose weight. 

The third week was not as huge of a crisis, but he desperately needed to gain weight every day and get off the feeding tube before he could come home. Andrew is a very easy going and content baby, but he grabbed hold of his feeding tube twice and pulled it right out. The second yank was the night before Easter. After that a resident doctor, sent by God, suggested that Andrew be fed more often. He immediately stepped up his eating, and gained weight so well that the feeding tube was a thing of the past, and he was able to come home two days after Easter, on the day that he turned three weeks of age.

For the first week of Andrew's life, three year old Daniel was being cared for by other family members nearby. Then my husband and I drove to their home several states away, to help our son, Jeff, take care for Daniel and take charge of the household, since Jeff couldn't afford to use up all his vacation time. After a week, my husband had to go back home to work. Although he is partially retired, his company has a big job for him to work on right now, so he's temporarily working full time again. I am staying to help Jeff and Rachael's little family, at their request, for thirty-one days. This will be the longest period of time my husband and I have ever been apart in almost forty-three years of our marriage, but it's certainly for a worthy cause. 


I'm so happy to be able to help them, and my two weeks with Daniel has been such fun! Now that Andrew and Rachael are home, I am loving all the cuddling I am able to provide, while Rachael has more time for big brother, Daniel. While they take afternoon naps, I am able to take care of Andrew. He is still too tired to work hard enough to nurse full time, so he is taking most of his mom's breast milk by bottle, until he is stronger. That means Jeff and I are able to help feed him by bottle more often.  I can hardly take my eyes off of his sweet face while feeding him!

Last week Jeff, Daniel and I went to Children's Hospital and stayed in the Ronald McDonald House two nights, so their little family could be together again. It was the first time in two weeks that Rachael and Daniel had seen each other. He has done amazingly well though! Jeff and I each got to spend hours cuddling and feeding Andrew bottles of breast milk. Volunteers from various churches in the area brought lunch and dinner each day for families of patients. It was such an appreciated service.

Andrew only whimpered a little at birth, and rarely cried at all during the first week or two, but he is now crying rather heartily when he is hungry, and we love that! We are measuring his feedings and he is exceeding what the medical staff expects, so we know he is gaining weight.

While Andrew is sleeping he makes such adorable squeaking sounds, so I sometimes lovingly call him, "Pipsqueak." He is a bundle of squeaks, smiles, stretches, yawns, miracles, and sweetness!

So many precious Scriptures were like a rock to us during this time of uncertainty. The fact that this little family had experienced two miscarriages in the previous year made it all the more difficult to think of them losing another little one. But the Lord gave us such a perfect peace that passes all understanding, and this trial has definitely strengthened our trust in Him. Psalm 139 was a comfort to us, reminding us that God Himself formed Andrew in his mother's womb, and we knew that He still had Andrew in His Hands and He alone was completely in charge of his life. Ephesians 3:20 encouraged us as well, saying that the Lord was able to do exceeding abundantly above all we could ask or think. The next verse (21) says, "Unto Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus, to all generations."

We will never know why all of this happened, but we know God had a special reason. Certainly many good things have come out of this experience. I am enjoying five weeks with my two grandsons, and loving every minute of it. It's hard to take my eyes off of this beautiful miracle baby as I feed him and help care for him, and Daniel and I have been having lots of good times together as well. Our trust in the Lord has been increased. Rachael had the opportunity to meet so many people at Children's Hospital and talk with them, and heard so many miracle stories of other babies. She was sharing with me how she wrote notes of appreciation to all of Andrew's doctors and nurses, as well as other mothers at the hospital whom she met with very sick babies. She wrote out scripture verses in many, and always mentioned to others how the prayers of so many people were making all the difference in the world for her and Jeff during this most difficult time, and giving them such peace even during the most uncertain days when they could have easily lost their baby.

We are still so humbled by the outpouring of love and prayers by so many dear people, even many around the world! Many started prayer chains or sent the prayer requests to a long list of their own family and friends. Jeff and Rachael's family has healthy dinners coming to their home for the next three weeks, enough to spill over into Jeff's lunchbox for work, which gives him more rest and holding time. In the meantime, I am enjoying helping with Andrew and Daniel, as well as doing laundry, kitchen duty, and cleaning, trying my best to do serve this precious family in doing whatever is needed from this thankful Grammie!

Kangroo Care / SIDS / A Newborn's Conversation with God

KANGAROO CARE
Information from The Premature Baby Book by William Sears, M.D., Robert Sears, M.D., James Sears, M.D., and Martha Sears, R.N.



Kangaroo Care is a method of holding your baby skin-to-skin, with a blanket or garment wrapped around Mother's body, in order to help a baby thrive and feel secure at the beginning of his life. For preemies, Kangaroo Care is especially vital, but all newborn babies will benefit greatly. Fathers and other people can also provide Kangaroo Care.

Science says Kangarooed babies thrive so much better. They gain weight faster, leave the hospital sooner, cry less, have more stable temperatures, are more alert, sleep better, breathe better, have less infections, and have more stable heart rates. Parents, especially mothers, are less depressed, are more comfortable in the NICU, are more confident in caregiving abilities, have a more positive attitude toward their baby, perceive their baby as less abnormal, interact more with their baby, feel more important, and bond better.






SLEEPING WITH A FAN IN BABY'S ROOM CAN LOWER SIDS BY 72 %
SIDS deaths have dropped by more than half in the U.S. since 1992, when parents were first told to put babies to sleep on their backs, but using a fan in baby's room can decrease the numbers even more. A nurse at Children's Hospital mentioned using a fan, and this link backs up what she said.


A NEWBORN'S CONVERSATION WITH GOD
Author unknown

The child further inquired, "But tell me, here in heaven I don't have to do anything but sing and smile to be happy."
God said, "Your angel will sing for you and will also smile for you. And you will feel your angel's love and be very happy."

Again the small child asked, "And how am I going to be able to understand
when people talk to me if I don't know the language?"
God said, "Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hear, and with much patience and care your angel will teach you how to speak."

"And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?"
God said, "Your angel will place your hands together and will teach you how to pray."

"Who will protect me?"
God said, "Your angel will defend you even if it means risking its life?"
"But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore."
God said, "Your angel will always talk to you about Me and will teach you the way to come back to Me, even though I will always be next to you."

At that moment there was much peace in Heaven, but voices from Earth could be heard and the child hurriedly asked, "God, if I am to leave now, please tell my angel's name."
God said, "You will simply call her 'Mom.' "


A baby asked God, "They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow, but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?"
God said, "Your angel will be waiting for you and will take care of you."

Practical Tips and Tidbits

I hope at least a few of these tips will help make your life a little easier.
A tip we came up with this morning as a 1 1/2 hour trip was necessary for an infant checkup: If you are bottle feeding or using a bottle to feed a preemie breast milk, and need to warm up a bottle where hot water is unavailable, take along a glass-lined Thermos bottle filled with the hottest tap water possible for warming up a bottle (presently in a cooler). The water in a glass-lined Thermos will stay hot. When ready to warm the bottle, pour the water into a container larger than the bottle (preferably with a lid to prevent spilling) and set the bottle of milk in the container until warm.

If you have trouble getting your children into the tub before bedtime, tell them that the last one to take a bath must clean it.

A fun activity during bath time for older babies and toddlers is to blow bubbles for them to burst in the tub. Sometimes they will land in the soapy water and remain for a few seconds, which is such fun for little ones.

When a toddler hates to get out of the tub, and his fingers are shriveled like a prune, simply pull the plug.

If you want your children to begin helping you with housework, play the "waiter and waitress" game, with Mommy and Daddy as the customers.

If you have a kitchen table with grooves in it, as part of the design, but crumbs of food are difficult to remove from the cracks, use a lamb's wool duster for dry crumbs, before wiping the table with a clean dishcloth.

If you want to ensure that your family will eat what you have prepared for dinner, avoid sugary snacks (give only fresh fruits and vegetables), and wait until they are good and hungry.

If dinner is going to be a little late, boil or saute an onion. The aroma will tell your family that dinner is on the way, and hopefully you won't have to hear those dreaded questions, "What's for dinner?" or "When will dinner be ready?"


To get children to eat cereal using less sugar, mix equal amounts of sugar and powdered stevia in a salt shaker. They can gradually be weaned off sugar, as more and more stevia replaces the sugar, which breaks down resistance to colds, flu, and other illnesses.

Let your children or any group of children you are working with know that whoever says, "Me first," will be automatically be last.
If you can't get your kids to clean up after themselves, hide everything you pick up in a secret place and charge a nickle or dime an item as ransom.

Train children not to complain or tattle, by giving them a limited supply of complaint tickets. Each time they complain or tattle, they must give you a ticket before you will listen. The child will think twice before using up one of his complaints.

Keep a journal of your first year of marriage, because by your tenth year of marriage, it may feel like in your entire married life you haven't had ten minutes to yourselves.


When you finally find something after looking all over the place for it, put it back in the first place you looked, because that's probably where it belongs anyway.

If you want to be discreet about the number of birthday candles on a cake, arrange them in the form of a question mark.

Attach an inexpensive thermometer on the outside of your bedroom windows. You will be able to make better decisions in choosing what to wear. A thermometer outside the kitchen window or a room where you spend a lot of time, is helpful as well.
Keep suitcases smelling fresh by storing unwrapped bars of soap or fabric softener sheets in them in between trips.

For the least expensive and most effective deodorant, put about 1 teaspoon of baking soda in your one hand, and dribble a few drops of water to make a paste. Rub the paste under the arms for a safe, non-aluminum protection. One application may be effective for up to five days.

Packing an extension cord for trips will eliminate the problem of cords not reaching in hotel rooms or wherever you are staying..

When windshield wipers begin to wear down, rubbing briskly with sandpaper will extend their life. When dirty wipers streak your windshield, scrub them with baking soda and water.

Long before another baby is due to arrive in your family, find small inexpensive gifts for the other children at yard sales, Goodwill, or a dollar store. Wrap them and give to the older children after the new baby is born. This is a great idea for grandparents and friends to consider in giving gifts. I've been having fun giving my three year old grandson "surprises" as his baby brother is home from the hospital now.

If your child's slide has lost its speed, rub a sheet of waxed paper on it and watch the difference. Even the waxed linings from cereal will work.

If you have a hard time clearly seeing a splinter in a finger, dab some iodine on the spot. The splinter will darken and you will be able to locate and remove it more easily.

If shoelaces lose their plastic tip, dip the frayed end in glue and shape to a point.

If You Never ...

Author unknown - Thanks to Paula Archer in Nebraska for sending this!

If you never felt pain, then how would you know that I am a Healer?

If you never had to pray, How would you know that I am a Deliverer?

If you never had a trial, how could you call yourself an overcomer?

If you never felt sadness, How would you know that I am a Comforter?

If you never made a mistake, How would you know that I am a forgiver?

If you knew all, How would you know that I will answer your questions?

If you never were in trouble, How would you know that I will come to your rescue?

If you never were broken, Then how would you know that I can make you whole?

If you never had a problem,How would you know that I can solve them?

If you never had any suffering, Then how would you know what I went through?

If you never went through the fire, Then how would you become pure?

If I gave you all things, How would you appreciate them?

If I never corrected you, How would you know that I love you?

If you had all power, Then how would you learn to depend on me?

If your life was perfect, Then what would you need me for?

Love,
Jesus
 

Three Good Ideas for Communication

April 22, 2011 - This tip comes from the book, Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN. You can sign up at www.biblicalparenting.org. What are some helpful communication rules in your family? Click here to tell us about it. Used by permission


Learn How to Start
The way you present an issue often determines the response. Sometimes it's best to address a problem immediately, while other times waiting a few hours is more appropriate. Wisely choose a time, place, and approach with the goal of not just rebuking, but correcting, and finding resolution. "Lisa, I'd like to talk about the way you treated me earlier. Is now a good time or should we talk after dinner?"

Learn When to Stop
Once a dialogue has developed, have discernment to know when to stop. Some parents feel like they must win an argument or come to resolution by the end of the conversation so they end up pushing too hard. Other times emotions get too involved. Still other parents end a simple correction with preaching, bringing up the past, or making exaggerated statements about the offense.

In any case, it's important for parents to know when to take a break or simply stop the conversation. "I think we better stop here. Things are getting pretty tense. We need to continue this conversation, but let's take a break for now. Maybe we'll think of some other ideas in the meantime to help resolve this problem." Learning when to stop during conflict is a very important skill.


Learn How to Listen
Conflict represents opportunity. Children watch parents handle conflict and observe how they resolve differences. Listening and affirming a young person's thinking is an honoring step in conflict management.

"I understand you'd discipline your sister differently. Your ideas make sense. At this point, I have to make the decision and I'm going to emphasize something different, but I appreciate your ideas." Affirming or validating a child's thinking or reasoning is helpful for their development.

As you dialogue with your kids, you must learn to tolerate criticism. Many discussions you have will open the door for your teen to criticize you. Don't feel threatened or take these jabs personally. Use them to discuss issues and explain your decisions. If you can be transparent enough to use yourself as an example, your children will learn much more about life.

Humor

HOW TO PUT AN END TO SPRING FEVER MISCHIEF

Four high school boys afflicted with spring fever skipped morning classes. After lunch they reported to the teacher that they had a flat tire.

     Much to their relief she smiled and said, "Well, you missed a test today so take seats apart from one another and take out a piece of paper."

     Still smiling, she waited for them to sit down. Then she said, "First Question: Which tire?"
 
HOW TO PUT AN END TO CHURCH GOSSIP

     Gertrude, the church gossip, and self-appointed monitor of the church's morals, kept sticking her nose into other people's business.
Several members did not approve of her extra- curricular activities, but feared her enough to maintain their silence.

She made a mistake, however, when she accused Frank, a new member, of being an alcoholic after she saw his old pickup parked in front of the town's only bar one afternoon. 

Later that evening, Frank quietly parked his pickup truck in from of Gertrude's house -- walked home --- and left it there all night.    

Your gotta love Frank for such creativity!

Sewing Baby Bibs

Thanks to Debbie Klinect in Florida for sending these practical links!

Precious Gems

April, 2011
 
Ladies, if you would like to e-mail me your cute kids' quotes to be included in Heart to Heart, please do!
 
Last night while getting ready for bed, Kamyrn (4), was putting on lipstick. I asked her why she needed that for bed. She stated that if she got married in her dream, she wanted to get lipstick on the boy. ~ Lori in Ohio
 
This morning while I was in the shower Gracie (8) locked herself out of the house as she was going on the porch to play her guitar. She later tells me and sings to me the song she made up out there. "I'm all alone out here with nothing but my guitar and my dog. I hear a coyote and see a spider and I'm scared, but God is with me........" Soooo funny! ~ Penny in Virginia
 
Quotes from My Grandson, Daniel (3):
Daniel has a newborn baby brother. Before he came home, Daniel sat in the baby swing that is all ready for Andrew. I was surprised to see him sitting in it. I smiled at him and asked Daniel, "What are you doing?" Daniel told me in a matter-of-fact manner, "I'm just seeing if this fits for the summer."
 
Daniel was playing with his toys as I was in another room. Daniel came in and said, "Grammie, come and join my party at the Apple Festival! We'll go to the party barn!" When I got to the family room, I asked, "If this is an Apple Festival, where are all the apples?" He said, "Grammie, you can be a tree, and I'll pick apples from you!" Well, at least I was wearing a red shirt!

I was reading a Golden Book to Daniel before naptime - one I used to read to his Daddy. A picture showed two bunnies in a car with a longer-than-normal tail pipe. Daniel asked, "Whose tail is that?"

Daniel's mommy used to talk a good bit to Baby Andrew while he was still in her tummy. After Andrew was born, Daniel had just eaten lunch with his mommy at the Ronald McDonald House, and she commented on his tummy being bigger. Then Daniel asked, "Mommy, are you sad that Baby Andrew took away your big belly?


As we waited for Daniel's mommy and baby brother to come home from the hospital, early one morning I asked Daniel how he ended up in bed with his Daddy. He was still rather groggy, and looking a bit confused at my question, he replied, "Well, you shouldn't ask me that, because I don't know."

This next comment came because I've been caring for Daniel in his home for the past two weeks, while his mommy is at Children's Hospital with his preemie baby brother: Daniel pulled up his shirt sleeves, and said to me at breakfast, "My real mommy said I should pull up my sleeves when I eat almond butter and jelly toast."
 
I've been giving Daniel lots of small surprises during my visit, saving most for when Baby Andrew gets home. One of those surprises was Wonder Dough which came in pink and blue. We mixed it all together to make purple. The second time we played with it, Daniel, asked, "Where's the blue?" I explained how we had mixed it together to make purple, and he asked, pleadingly, "Can we unmix it?"

One the evening when Andrew and Mommy got home, when Daniel was asked if he would help change Andrew's diaper, he said, "Maybe I need gloves for that job!"