Showing posts with label Romance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Romance. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Romantic Gift Ideas

by Lois Breneman - Heart to Heart - August, 2014

This month my husband and I celebrated out forty-sixth wedding anniversary together, which started me thinking on romantic gift ideas.  I'll be glad to share these with you.

1. Photo shoot for the two of you or a photographed portrait of you as a couple.  One year my husband suggested we get our photo taken on Valentine's Day, before going out for dinner, which I thought was romantic.
2. Horseback riding for just the two of you.  Through the woods or on the beach would be especially fun.
3. Written invitation for dinner at a favorite restaurant or an upscale restaurant where you've never gone
4. Handwritten original poem about your love together
5. Hot air balloon ride.  My dear husband planned this for one of our anniversaries years ago. It was delightful, with breakfast served before our launch!  A memorable time on the "Gorgeous Darl'in" hot air balloon, all planned by John!  Sailing is another activity which we both enjoy as often as possible, and I consider it to be romantic as well.  It costs a lot less too, especially with an old sailboat waiting for us in  back of our house.
6. Car ride with a surprise lunch planned.  We made a day of leisurely cruising on Skyline Drive to see and photograph the gorgeous autumn leaves and we hope to do this again.  This was an especially romantic trip, since my parents honeymooned on Skyline Drive in 1939!
7. Handwritten list of the attributes that attracted you to your spouse in the first place.  Entitle it, "How Do I Love Thee?  Let Me Count the Ways!"  I've saved all of these poems, of course.
8. Handwritten letter about all the things you love about your spouse today, and why you want to grow old together.
9. Rent an RV for a get-away together.
10. Silk sheets and chocolates
11. A personalized CD with your favorite love songs or selecting a piece of art together for your home.
12. A get-away at a Bed and Breakfast.  John also planned a trip at a beautiful bed and breakfast in a beautiful, quaint town for the two of us.

I think it would be romantic to just sit together and go through scrapbooks of your years together. Over the years I have tried to keep up with simple scrapbooks including all our family trips ever since we were married, with all the basics as well as pictures and souvenirs.  I have also made a "Bare Bones List" of all our family vacations, including the dates, destinations, activities, and names of those who went.  That list has been helpful when wondering where we went during a particular year. 

These are just a few ideas you may want to consider to do to add romance to your lives, instead of the usual flowers, jewelry, or dinner.

Friday, January 14, 2011

Romantic Marriage / Suggestions on How to Serve the One You Love

TIPS FOR A MORE ROMANTIC MARRIAGE
Give seven compliments a day.

Best tip: Give your spouse at least seven compliments a day. It works.   Some days you may wonder if you can find one, let alone seven. But when it becomes a lifestyle, it becomes easy to look for the good in your spouse.  When you compliment each other with words of appreciation and affection, it projects acceptance and creates trust and security.

Examples:
   * You do such a great job with the lawn. You even look great in your old, sweaty work clothes.
   * It's wonderful just to be near you.
   * Thanks for being such a great dad to our kids.
   * Thanks for a lovely meal.
   * Thanks for taking out the garbage.
   * You are my best friend. I can tell you anything.
   * No one touches my heart like you do.  Practicing seven-compliments-a-day goes a long way to warding off strife. But when tiffs begin, remind yourself that marriage is for the long haul - for keeps. Many divorces develop through strife, and most of them are avoidable. Don't pick at each other over petty annoyances. Before you criticize your spouse, ask yourself how important the issue is. Ask if that comment is going to help or hurt your relationship. Ask yourself if the issue at stake is more important than your marriage, or your spouse's probable reaction to your words. ~ Author unknown

SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO SERVE THE ONE YOU LOVE
*1.  Admit to your spouse that you have made mistakes and that you desire to change.
 
*2.  Ask your spouse to tell you one thing that you could either begin doing or stop doing that would make life easier or more meaningful for him or her.

*3.  Write your spouse's suggestions on a card or a poster for future reference.
 
*4.  Ask God to help you serve your spouse better. 
 
*5.  Continue to ask for suggestions, building them into your life-style. This will require thought, prayer and discipline, but the satisfaction of genuinely serving your spouse in worth the effort.

- Gary D. Chapman, DECISION, June 1998
(Magazine: DECISION http://www.graham-assn.org/decision/)
 

THANKING THE LORD FOR FORTY YEARS OF MARRIAGE!
by Lois Breneman - 2008

I'm so thankful to the Lord for the forty wonderful years of marriage He has given me with my dear husband, John.  The Lord had always been the glue in our dating relationship and our marriage.  We both continue to say we would choose each other all over again.  Neither of us is perfect, although I must admit it took me a few years before I realized that he wasn't!  There is always something to work on to improve our marriage. 
 
A few keys to marriage, I believe, are these:
 
Keeping Christ at the center of the marriage and staying in the Word of God
Making time for yourselves a priority, even during the busy years of having children
Not getting too busy
Finding ways to creatively express love to each other
Spending time praying together
Spending time playing together - sailing, walking, watching good movies, etc.
Using good humor, but never sarcasm
Giving compliments to each other
Showing consideration to each other - "in honor preferring one another"
Wives showing respect to their husbands, and husbands loving their wives

Sunday, December 26, 2010

Year Round Admiration for Your Husband / Hidden Love Notes

 Thanks to Helen Rutrough in Virginia for her comment about the idea mentioned below! 
I've been meaning to tell you since last Valentine's Day that I followed one of your suggestions of making hearts and writing on them things about Gary that I admire and things that have meant a lot to us in our marriage.  I made 30 of them last year and laminated them so they would last and hung them around different places for him to find.  After a couple days he had found them all but he told me not to take them down that he wanted them left in place!  Well they're been in place for almost a year now!  Still hanging from his truck mirror, on his coffee mug, wrapped around a pair of socks, hanging in the laundry room, on our bedroom mirror, etc.  It was a big hit with him and there's no plans to remove them any time soon!  Thanks for all your creativity and for sharing it with us ladies!


HIDDEN LOVE NOTES FOR ANYTIME   to 
by Lois Breneman, © Revised 2009, Heart to Heart 
For Valentine's Day eight years ago when my husband and I were married for thirty-two years, I traced and cut out 32 red hearts, and wrote on each one a reason why I loved my husband, things I appreciated about him or wrote "remember when" memories of our dating years and 32 years as husband and wife.  After punching a hole in each heart and inserting ribbons, I tied the notes everywhere so he would find them throughout the evening and into the next day -- on his socks, toothbrush, toothpaste tube, to the stem of an apple in his lunch, to the doorknob, to his silverware, under his plate, around his glass at dinner, inside his napkin, to his coffee mug, to his pillow, in his jacket pocket, etc.   Later that evening I tied some to the steering wheel, his car keys, and tucked one in his lunch to find the next day. He was still finding red hearts the next day!  I did this again this Valentine's Day - with 40 hearts.
Examples for notes:
 

I first knew that I loved you when...

I remember our first date...

I remember just before you asked me to marry you - how I felt your heart beating so fast while holding hands that I took your pulse and it was 110 beats per minute!  Then, after you asked me to marry you, you took mine and it was 112!  Pitter patter!
If you don't want to go to the bother of hiding the hearts (though it's lots of fun!), you could tie each one to a stem in a silk bouquet of flowers.  Then you could display the flowers in your home as a sweet reminder of the love you share.

Two other variations of this idea: 
(1) Color copy an entire page of pictures of you and your husband from during your dating years and afterwards.  Crop the pictures and make a small scrapbook for your sweetie or simply glue them to card stock with cute captions. 

(2) Use color copied pictures to make a little romantic booklet with fun captions for him. 
Whatever you do, I'm sure he will love it!   Our husbands need our acceptance, admiration and adoration, no matter what day it is or how many years we've been married.
This quote is good, even after Valentine's Day.  Make every day a special day!

"Despite its commercial underpinnings, I think Valentine's Day is a great idea. ... It's never too late to put a little excitement into your relationship. Marriages must be nurtured, or they can whither like a plant without water."

— Dr. James Dobson, founder and chairman of Focus on the Family 

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Tips and Tidbits for Valentine's Day & Handmade Valentines

by Lois Breneman, © 2008, Heart to Heart Newsletter


A Romantic Idea ~ Write out reasons why you love your husband or "I remember when..." (remembrances of your special times together).  Make red hearts from card stock or construction paper (about 2x3") and punch a hole in it along the edge.  Buy a bouquet of roses (real or silk) or other flowers and arrange in a vase.  Tie your love note valentines to each flower stem with ribbon.  Another way that you could use this same idea is to tie the notes everywhere so he will find them throughout the day - on his socks, toothbrush, toothpaste tube, to the stem of an apple in his lunch, to the doorknob, to the steering wheel, to his car keys, to his silverware, around his glass at dinner, to his coffee mug, etc.
        Examples for notes:
        I first knew that I loved you when...
        I remember our first date.....
        I remember when you asked me to marry you....

You could also color copy an entire page of old pictures of you and your husband for about $1 at Staples from during your dating years and afterward, crop them and glue them to the card stock with captions.  Or you could use these pictures to make a little romantic booklet with captions for him.  He will love it!  

An Everyday Love Reminder ~ For a holiday such as Valentine's Day or Mother's Day, here's a great idea.  Fresh flowers are nice, but you can spend so much money on overpriced flowers that die within a few days. If you feel this way, you might want to give a rose bush or suggest a rosebush or two for yourself for Valentine's and Mother's Day.  Do a search for knockout roses, a real winner - easy to grow and disease resistant.  A single rose from the florist with a rose bush would be nice.

A Colorful Fish in a Bowl ~ A wonderful and creative valentine's gift especially for an older person or a child is a "Male Betta" - a colorful fish which can be kept in a large clear glass vase.  Put some glass marbles on the bottom, fill with spring water (not tap water) and watch the action of this beautiful fish!  They can be found in various colors all splashed together, such as pink, burgundy and purple or gorgeous shades of blue.  The water has to be refreshed just once a week, but it is an easy pet and one that brings a lot of fun.  Just feed him each day.  Some good names for a fish might be "Jonah," or "Sushi."  You will want to put only ONE fish in a bowl, because they will fight each other to death if put together!  We had a couple at separate times when our children were small and we all really enjoyed the action and the pretty colors. 

Conversation ~ A husband, proving to his wife that women talk more than men, showed her a study which indicated that men use on the average only 15,000 words a day, where as women use 30,000 words a day.  She thought about this for awhile and then told her husband that women use twice as many words as men because they have to repeat everything they say.  To which he replied, "What?"


21 DAY ROMANCE CHALLENGE

This would be a wonderful time of year to accept the 21 DAY ROMANCE CHALLENGE as well.  If you dare. J Again, visit http://www.guardyourmarriage.com/ and click onto 21 Day Romance Challenge. Each day's entry is posted. ~ Thanks to Eileen Rife in Virginia for this challenge.

HANDMADE VALENTINES
by Lois Breneman - 2007 - revised 2010

This website shows how to make some pretty handmade valentines.  You might want to add a scripture verse or a poem, such as one of the ones below.   http://www.familycorner.com/homegarden/crafts/valentine_cards.shtml

You can buy blank cards and envelopes at a craft store like AC Moore or Michael's - many times offered at half price.

Pretty wide ribbon makes a simple piece of card stock look very elegant!

You could cut out 3 adjoining hearts, with the two on the left and right folding over onto the center heart.  Write the scripture verse on the center heart.

Make special valentines by using construction paper or red card stock, rubber stamps, ribbons, doilies, lace, glitter, seed pearl beads, and glue. Even pictures from calendars and magazines can be used for very creative valentines.

If time is limited, glue a doily to red construction paper or card stock and rubber stamp a valentine in the center.  Then type a scripture verse in duplicate form on the computer, cut out and glue on the cards.  Use the concordance of your Bible to look up verses on "love."

Jeremiah 31:3 is a good scripture: "I have loved you with an everlasting love."

Here are two poems you could copy, paste and print in multiples for the cards:

PERFECT LOVE
Slow to suspect - quick to trust.
Slow to condemn - quick to justify.
Slow to offend - quick to defend.
Slow to expose - quick to shield.
Slow to reprimand - quick to forbear.
Slow to belittle - quick to appreciate.
Slow to demand - quick to give.
Slow to provoke - quick to conciliate.
Slow to hinder - quick to help.
Slow to resent - quick to forgive.

THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT -- 
LOVE
JOY is love exulting.
PEACE is love in repose.
LONGSUFFERING is love on trial.
GENTLENESS is love in society.
GOODNESS is love in action.
FAITH is love in endurance.
MEEKNESS is love at school.
TEMPERANCE is love in discipline.

An Idea You Might Want to Try ~ A subscriber, Brenda Simpson, asked me about ideas for making handmade cards.  In fact, that's how this article came into being.  After I sent her the ideas, she made valentines for her Sunday school class using card stock with a pretty ribbon.  She copied the poems on them, wrote Jeremiah 31:3 and added a Hershey's Kiss! 

Pull the Kids into the Act

Excerpt taken from A New Day for Your Marriage, 21 Days to a Healthier Relationship, copyright © 2003 Chuck and Eileen Rife - www.guardyourmarriage.comwww.eileenrife.com - Used by permission

Kids love to plan surprises, especially for mom and dad!  Why not solicit their help the next time you want to create a romantic interlude for you and your mate?

One year Eileen and her three young daughters surprised Chuck after work. They planned a "King for the Night" evening complete with crown, streamers, fancy table and foods, and a white butcher paper runner from the front door to the table. The kids had fun working on the event and were instructed that as soon as daddy came through the door and delivered hugs and kisses to each one, they were to go to their rooms where games and snacks awaited them. While Chuck and Eileen savored a candlelight dinner for two, the girls occasionally took a peak out their bedroom doors to see mommy and daddy enjoy their romantic feast.

Another time for Chuck and Eileen's anniversary, the girls helped mom decorate the deck with flowers, greenery, white mini-lights, and white cloth and candles for the picnic table. They were proud of their accomplishment and it boosted their confidence that mom and dad loved each other - an important thing in this age of rampant divorce.

Many times, Chuck has pulled the girls aside to help him surprise Eileen with a special gift to say, "I love you; you mean the world to me!"

Pulling the kids into the act helps them feel like valued team members, giving them the opportunity to invest in family love and togetherness.

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Christmas Timetable, Photo Ideas, Tips, Saving Time


IN THIS ISSUE:
  • MARILYN MOLL'S HOLIDAY TIMETABLE
  • CHRISTMAS PHOTO IDEAS
  • CHRISTMAS ROMANCE - A MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN
  • IDEAS FOR DECORATING YOUR HOME AT CHRISTMAS
  • HIDING CHRISTMAS STOCKINGS
  • GRANDMA'S GIFT
  • DOORBELL GIFTS
  • PRAYING FOR YOUR WAITER OR WAITRESS
  • AWANA CHRISTMAS ORNAMENTS
  • FELT MANGER SCENE ORNAMENT OR WALL HANGING
  • GLASS BALLS, DRIZZLED ON THE INSIDE WITH ACRYLIC PAINT
  • GLASS BALLS WITH TINSEL OR SHREDDED PAPER
  • DOUGH ORNAMENTS
  • ORANGE AND LEMON POMANDERS THAT LAST FOR YEARS
  • SCENTED PINECONES
  • A BRIEF GREEK LESSON ON CHRISTMAS / XMAS
  • TIME SAVING TIPS FOR THIS BUSY TIME OF YEAR
  • MAILING HOLIDAY PACKAGES: ON TIME AND IN ONE PIECE
  • LEARNING VS. TESTING
  • GOD USES ORDINARY PEOPLE IN EXTRAORDINARY WAYS
  • A NATIVITY SCENE STORY - OUT OF THE MOUTHS OF BABES
MARILYN MOLL'S HOLIDAY TIMETABLE
By Marilyn Moll - http://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/?sAWTpO3ijgQvCMSWz2zI.A - Used by permission


Note from Lois: You can use this as a guide for spacing out the many things needing done in preparation for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Actually I learned that the individual links below are unable to be accessed, because the detailed information in those links is for sale. Hopefully this rough outline alone will be of help to you. You are welcome to purchase the details from Marilyn Moll, of course.


Remember, the timetable is merely a suggestion; rearrange, add, or delete activities from the schedule to meet the needs of your family. The timetable is below.

Week #1 - List Week Oct 3- 8
Make your lists of gift recipients, Christmas cards, menus for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's, goodies to share or to give, favorite meals to prepare ahead, decorations needed, gifts to make.

Week #2 - Browse Week Oct 10-16
Develop and record ideas for gifts, decorations. Ask yourself the following questions:
* What would our ideal Christmas be like?
* What activities are particularly important to our family at Christmas?
* How much emphasis do our Christmas activities place on the spiritual side of Christmas?

Week #3 - Supplies Week Oct 17-23
After inventorying supplies on hand, purchase non-perishables needed for holiday baking, and supplies needed for gift making,, gift wrapping, etc.

Week #4 - Baking Week: Oct 24-30
Set aside the time needed to complete holiday goodie making. Make lists of toys, books, and clothes that children would enjoy. More...

Week #5 - Gift Making Week Oct 31 - Nov 6
Focus your energies on completing gifts to be made. More...

Week #6 - Shopping Week #1 Nov 7-13
Decorate your home for Thanksgiving and focus on gift buying for prepared list. Wrap and label packages as you go.

Week #7 -Shopping Week #2 Nov 14-20
Complete as much shopping as possible. Take advantage of many items that are on sale before Thanksgiving!

Week #8 -
Thanksgiving Week Nov 21-27
Use this week to prepare Thanksgiving dishes, pies, homemade rolls, and enjoy the holiday with your family. Marilyn's Traditional Thanksgiving Stress Free Plans and Easy Recipes for Busy Moms are at this link.  Start the Jesse Tree Devotional readings by Ann Voskamp. The Jesse Tree Devotional is different than advent as it tells the whole story of the coming of the Savior starting in the book of Genesis. The devotional includes 30 readings culminating with the birth of Christ. If you purchase the Planner you will get all the devotionals plus the beautiful, colored ornaments designed to be hung on a branch or a tree. The ornaments are a terrific, hands-on way for the children to remember each bible story leading up t o the birth of Christ.

Week #9 - Mailing Week Nov 28-Dec 4 Complete package wrapping for gifts to be shipped.
Dec 5 -11 Prepare some favorite meals and other baked goods for the hectic days ahead. Decorate. Involve children in memory making! My recipes for Beef Burgundy and Honey Glazed Chicken and other reliable family favorites can be downloaded at this link.


Week #11 - Final Shopping/Wrapping Week Dec 12-18Complete last minute details and enjoy holiday parties, concerts, and family activities. For quick and easy cookie recipes Click Here.

Week #12 - Enjoy Your Christmas Celebration Week Dec 19 
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Enjoy the Holidays with Family and Friends! Take time to drive the neighborhoods to enjoy holiday lighting displays. Enjoy family traditions and special meals. A complete holiday menu with delicious recipes is found at this link.


We, at The Urban Homemaker, don't advocate complicated or expensive holiday celebrations, and wish to encourage your family to focus on the true meaning of the holiday season.

However, this twelve-week simplified timetable could be used as a checklist and is designed to be flexible in order to assist you in focusing in on your family's priorities for Thanksgiving, Christmas. We believe holiday planning promotes order and harmony, offering you time to evaluate what is really important to your family.

The Urban Homemaker is a family run business dedicated to teaching and promoting "old fashioned skills for contemporary people". We offer back-to-basics products for physical and spiritual family health. We believe the products and skills that we offer promote a more healthful diet, the virtues of thrift and self-sufficiency, and enable homemakers to fulfill the biblical mandate to be keepers of the home in the spirit of Titus 2.


CHRISTMAS PHOTO IDEAS
by Lois Breneman, Copyright 2006

Have fun trying some unique and creative Christmas poses on your own this year, rather than using a professional photographer. These special photos could be used to create your Christmas card, include with a card, frame to hang as a decoration each Christmas, give to grandparents, or include in a Christmas scrapbook for lots of warm memories. Here are a few creative ideas to consider trying.
Last year we received a priceless Christmas card photo from our nephew and his wife of their three young daughters. The youngest one in the center was crying her little heart out, with her eyes shut and one hand in her mouth, while one sister tried to console her and the other sister was ignoring the crying and smiling like a little princess. The caption read, "Wishing you a Christmas as peaceful as ours!" Later we learned how they dressed up all three daughters in their Christmas dresses three nights in a row, and this was the scene each night. At the end of the third photo shoot, their worn out mother said, "That's it! This is the picture we are sending!" We loved it!! It's been on our refrigerator all year and will be until we have a replacement!
Another nephew and his wife took a picture of their very young son on the floor among a string of colorful lights all lit up. So cute!
Wrap each child with a string of Christmas lights and tinsel on their heads for a fun picture!

Take a picture of your children dressed as Mary, Joseph and Baby Jesus. If you have enough children to dress as the three wisemen, or shepherds, that would be a very special Christmas photo! We have pictures like this of our two older children, with a bread dough bread basket as the manger in front of them, holding a doll.
If you have only 2-3 children, dress them in outdoor Christmas or winter attire. Have one child pull one or two siblings on a sled with fake Christmas gifts on the back of the sled. Or use a wagon instead. Another idea would be to pull two or three little ones in a wagon, each holding a gift. If you have four children, have the oldest child pull the other three in a wagon.

Take pictures of your children in their pajamas, lying on their tummies, each with his head propped up on his hands in front of the fireplace.

How about a photo of your children decorating cookies or a birthday cake for Jesus!
If children are old enough try taking a picture of them in a pyramid, wearing their pajamas.

Dress the kids up in Christmas outfits or simply Christmas colors and have them pose in front of the Christmas display at your local mall.
Line up all the kids or the entire family, lying on the floor on their tummies, with face propped in their hands and looking up. Use a tripod and timer if you don't have a photographer. I found a picture like this among my "antique" photos of all the cousins from years ago, lying in the grass.

Take a picture of the children decorating the Christmas tree or adding the finishing touches to a snowman you helped them build (adding coal for the eyes, a carrot for the nose, a smile, branches for the arms, and a scarf and hat).
Use a tripod and the timer on your camera to snap a family photo, unless you have another person to take pictures of everyone. Any of these ideas above would be great with all of the family included.

Even if you don't use these pictures as a Christmas card or to include with a card, they would be very special photos to frame and include with your Christmas decorations each year!

If you have other unique ways of taking family pictures at Christmas, please send them to me.


CHRISTMAS ROMANCE - A MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN

In 2004 in Tacoma, Washington, the young man who portrayed Joseph in a live Nativity, had things all planned out ahead of time. Dan Larson, 25, and Amanda Thaut, 26, had dated for two or three years before he portrayed Joseph and his sweetheart Amanda portrayed Mary, the mother of Jesus, in a Nativity performance at the Metropolitan Ballet of Tacoma (Washington) in 2004. Shortly after a performance, Dan got down on one knee and asked Amanda, "Will you marry me?" Amanda quietly gasped, "Yes."
The audience was stunned. One of the wise men pumped his fist in the air, while the shepherds and angels could barely contain their enthusiasm.

Dan said later, "I wanted to make it something very special. Every part of my life is better because of her."
I knew you ladies would enjoy this one!  A Hallmark movie should be made from this story!


IDEAS FOR DECORATING YOUR HOME AT CHRISTMAS
by Lois Breneman, Copyright 2005

Gift Wrapped Pictures on the Wall
Take a few large framed pictures down from your walls and wrap them in lovely gift wrap with beautiful ribbon and a bow for a big splash of Christmas. Blend the gift wrap with the colors in your room, of course.

Many Hues of Christmas Colors
If you use bright Christmas reds and greens in decorating for Christmas, go with that. Many like to use burgundy in place of red to go with their year round color scheme. In our living room I use mostly pinks, mauves, and peaches with green, so the colors will go with our sofa and chairs.

A Victorian Christmas Tree
Our Christmas tree is decorated Victorian style in various pinks, mauves, peaches, greens, with white, gold and silver. After the tiny white lights are stung around the tree by my helpful husband, a long string of pearls is draped in scallops from top to bottom. Ornaments of lace, pink and green ice cream cones, salt ceramics, marble painted glass balls, angels, small cross stitch ornaments of crosses or the word, "Joy," molded glittered paper ornaments of hearts and train cars and small Victorian dolls load down the branches. To fill in any empty spots, lots of pink poinsettias, colorful picks of roses and other decorations are simply laid on the branches, as well as fabric-covered peaches and green grapes that are used in an arrangement during the rest of the year. Last year I arranged several Victorian dolls and Teddy bears with lace around the base of the tree on a tree skirt, made in the Dresden Plate design - solid pink with a Victorian roses in a print of pinks and greens.
One or Several Christmas Themes
Of course, the main Christmas theme in your home should be Jesus, with Nativity Scenesspread all around your home. Another theme of "Toyland" or "Christmases Long Ago," grouped together around the Christmas tree, in a corner of a room or on a table is fun too. Several layers of Christmasy fabrics and wide ribbons can help to brighten up this spot. If you have antique toys, definitely use them in your display. Items in the center can be raised up by draping a cloth over a box or old popcorn tin. Using several boxes or tins of varying heights would be even better. It doesn't have to cost anything, if you use items you already have. Add Teddy bears, dolls, a sled, a rocking horse, a cradle, an old quilt, books, cookie cutters, a rolling pin - the list goes on! Let your children and grandchildren join in the fun. Then add a special Nativity Scene in the center of your display!

Some decorators say to use only one theme throughout your home, but if you like to decorate, I think it's more interesting and fun to have a different theme in different rooms or on different levels. Other themes could be "Christmas around the World," or use collections of Teddy bears, snowmen, angels, but do include a Nativity Scene in the center. Why? Because "Jesus is the reason for the season!" Without Jesus, we never would have had Christmas!

HIDING CHRISTMAS STOCKINGS ~ The kids always enjoyed opening Christmas stockings, but to make it a little more interesting, we would hide the stockings and give clues. Each clue would lead to the next, and the last clue would lead them to their stockings. One year the stockings were in the dryer, another year, the freezer, one year in the kitchen cupboard, etc. When we lived in a two-story house, one clue would be upstairs, and the next downstairs. This gave the kids exercise while they tried to find their stockings. ~ From Nancy Minton in Maryland


GRANDMA'S GIFT
From The Dollar Stretcher - www-stretcher.com - Used by permission from the Editor

Grandma always gets gifts for the grands. Well, she is elderly, does not like to shop, and the prices just drag her down. For about five years, I did this shopping and always with the worry that it was not something the kids wanted and such. Then we did the gift card thing and Grandma hated that.

Last year, I came up with an idea that was a hit and it will be repeated as long as she wants to give the kids a gift. She gives me the money ($25 each) and I in turn hand the kids their money. Then they go get what they want. Here is where the fun begins! They bring it home, they wrap it, and when we have our Christmas celebration, they hand the gift to Grandma. She unwraps it to find out what she gave them for Christmas. This has been a lifesaver all around, and one of my daughters said she had mentally spent Grandma's money many times over before she really decided what to receive. Last year we did not tell Grandma what was going on ahead of time. This year she said, "Can we do the thing with the kids getting their gifts and giving them to me to unwrap?" So, this was a big success. I am pretty sure that some of the grandchildren even waited until something went on sale to get their gift. ~ Reader's Tips from Susan


DOORBELL GIFTS
I heard on the radio how a family keeps a basket of small wrapped gifts by the door, and whoever comes to the door receives a gift - that includes the postman, U.S.P.S. or Fed-X delivery, pizza delivery, friends, a neighbor borrowing sugar, etc. It also fun to have small gifts for sales clerks, along with a Christmas message in the form of a tract. I enjoy making lined tissue holders when I get a chance and love giving them out to friends and strangers who don't expect a gift. It's amazing how appreciative store clerks, waiters and waitresses are when you hand them one and say, "Here's a little something for you for being so helpful!" or "Merry Christmas!" A folded tract fits inside nicely and may be what the Lord uses to bring that person to Christ.


PRAYING FOR YOUR WAITER OR WAITRESS
Our pastor mentioned something he and his wife do when they eat out. When the waiter or waitress comes to take their order, one of them says, "We will be thanking the Lord for our food in a little while. When we do, is there something that you would like us to pray about for you?" What a witness and impact that would make on so many lonely and hurting people any time of the year!


AWANA CHRISTMAS ORNAMENTS
A Heart to Heart friend wrote a few years ago that she was working with AWANA girls, and would like to find a neat craft for Christmas (an ornament maybe) that includes the AWANA colors (red, yellow, blue and green) or some of the colors - something that will remind the girls of the things they learned in AWANA as they get out their decorations each year. I'm sharing these next four ideas with you, in case others might be able to incorporate these ideas for AWANA, another group or as a gift to an AWANA leader.


FELT MANGER SCENE ORNAMENT OR WALL HANGING
Draw out a very simple outline of a manger with straw and a baby inside. An ornament could be made with felt in several colors. Manger - brown or reddish-brown; Swaddling clothes - white; Jesus' face - light pink, Straw - yellow. Those pieces could be glued to a circle of black with a yellow star in the sky (a star jewel could be used for the star). The same parts could be made larger and used as a wall hanging. For a stiffer form, glue onto posterboard. Glue on a ribbon to hang either an ornament or wall hanging.


GLASS BALLS, DRIZZLED ON THE INSIDE WITH ACRYLIC PAINT in 2-3 colors. They are so much fun to do! Craft stores have the glass balls, paints and directions. Basically you remove the top of the glass ball and slowly drizzle acrylic paint into the ball, allowing it to run down the sides or wherever you want. Drizzle another color, until the inside of the ball is painted. Set the painted ball upside down on a small bathroom paper cup, to allow the unused paint to drizzle out. Let dry for several days. Put top back on. A bow tied around the top adds a special touch.


GLASS BALLS WITH TINSEL OR SHREDDED PAPER
Barb Campbell also suggests tinsel in the glass balls. She said they look super. Or using a paper shredder, shred colored paper and insert into the glass balls.


DOUGH ORNAMENTS
Contributed by Barb Campbell in Mississippi
Mix together:
2 cups flour
1 cup salt
1 cup water

Preheat oven to 300 degrees. Knead together. Roll out and cut with cookie cutters. Brush with beaten egg. Use a toothpick to make a hole at the top of each ornament before baking.

Bake for 10-15 minutes. After baking and cooling, push red and green yarn or ribbon through the hole and make a tie for each ornament. Leave the ornaments natural or paint them with acrylic paints. Spray with varnish for a long-lasting finish.
(Note from Lois: Way back in 1978, I was asked to teach a six week adult education course at a local high school on this topic, as part of the home economics evening classes. Teaching is not my "cup of tea," so the only reason I did it was to earn what was needed to do my part for my parents' 40th anniversary, a wonderful "This Is Your Life" celebration, organized by my sister. In the six weeks of classes everyone made several different projects, including a woven bread basket, a dough wreath, jar lid covers and Christmas ornaments, so the ideas are endless. Books on many different projects are in the library.)


ORANGE AND LEMON POMANDERS THAT LAST FOR YEARS
Instructions were given to me by my sister-in-law, Linda Walker, in Pennsylvania 
(Note added in 2011: My daughter-in-law and I made these together two years ago.  They make a lovely accent and will last and last for years.  They get so light in weight as the moisture evaporates.)


Linda still has clove-studded oranges and lemons that she made years ago. Last Thanksgiving she invited her daughter, daughter-in-law and their friends to her home for a fun time of crafting together as they made about a dozen of these fragrant and natural Christmas decorations. I had done this project myself before, but because I didn't use orris root powder, the orange soon molded. That step is very important. If you have a natural foods co-op nearby, you can find these spices for much less than at the grocery store. Linda said to use the less expensive smaller oranges, rather than the larger ones with the tougher peel.
1) Poke holes in an orange or lemon with a wooden skewer. Do only one row at a time and fill each hole with a whole clove. The fruit will keep longer, without molding, if you cover the entire piece of fruit, rather than doing a decorative design, leaving parts of the fruit without cloves.
2) When the orange or lemon is covered with cloves, run water on the stuffed fruit to wet it.
3) Into a gallon sized Ziplock bag put a large container of cinnamon (18 ounces), with smaller amounts of ground nutmeg and allspice. Add 2 heaping tablespoons of orris root powder, which helps to preserve the fruit for a longer period of time.
4) Coat one piece of clove-studded fruit at a time with all the mixed spices.
5) Remove fruit from the bag and place on a tea towel to dry completely.
6) Turn the fruit a little each day until dry. The process may take at least two weeks.
7) Keep stuffed fruit out in the air for months, displaying them on a piece of fabric in a wooden, brass, or decorative bowl or basket. You may choose to arrange the cinnamon and clove oranges and lemons with a candle, fresh pineapple or small silk flowers.
8) Store in a Ziploc bag only after completely dry, but keep them out to enjoy all winter long. The fragrance will remain for years when stored in a plastic bag, but if the cinnamon fragrance lessens, a few dabs of cinnamon oil will perk it up again.


SCENTED PINECONES
Let the children gather pinecones and bake them at 250 degrees for 30 minutes to kill all the insects. Paint the tips with white acrylic paint, rub with cinnamon oil and sprinkle with white diamond glitter. Dry and use in decorating your home. Fill a copper bowl or a basket with them.


A BRIEF GREEK LESSON ON CHRISTMAS / XMAS
I thought you might be interested to know where Xmas originated, so I asked.
Dr. Greg Huffman explains:
The complete word for Christ is Transliterated “Christos,” which is spelled with an “X” as the first letter, and comes from the Greek work “Chrio” which means anointed, speaking of his Messiahship.

I believe the real effort in “Xmas” is really to do all they can do to eliminate the word, "Christ." Since none of us reads Greek, why try to spell the word for Christmas with half Greek (one letter) and the rest English (mass)?

"Don't wish me Merry X-Mas, nor Happy Holidays! Put Christ back into Christmas on this blessed holy day!"

TIME SAVING TIPS FOR THIS BUSY TIME OF YEAR
by Lois Breneman, Copyright 2005
A "Grabber," which can be found in a drug store or Walmart for about $10, works great for smoothing out the Christmas tree skirt!. We used to have the kids crawl under the tree to help with this, but now that they're not here, a "grabber" works great! (Sorry kids! You've been replaced by a "Grabber!") It also helps to reach things up high without getting out a step stool, then falling and breaking your neck - or to reach things down low without stooping. Young mothers, a grabber saves your back in bending over to pick up toys if your children are too young to do it themselves.

Fill a sugar shaker with whole wheat or spelt flour for shaking onto meat before frying, rather than dipping into a bowl of flour. A shaker makes much less mess and wastes no flour. Saves time too. I cover my shaker with a baggie secured with a rubber band.

Fill a plastic honey bear squeeze bottle or any kind of squeeze bottle (used for food) with olive or canola oil, and store (without a lid) in a cabinet near the stove. Then when you need oil, it will take only one hand to grab and squeeze out a little for cooking.
Use a lamb's wool duster for quick dusting! Having several will allow you to fill them all with dust and shake the dust off outside all at one time. They come with long and short handles.

Have you seen the Swivel Sweeper with no cord? The battery is rechargeable. It cleans hard surface floors, as well as surface dirt on carpets. A vacuum with good suction would be needed in between, of course, but this is great for surface dirt, for times when you need to clean your house in a jiffy. The swivel sweeper fits into small spaces, under beds, picks up on all four sides - even sweeps up sand, rice or nuts and bolts! It's very light and zips through the house in minutes without causing back pain. I love mine and so does our two year old grandson! So we gave his family one, knowing it would be a help to our daughter for quick cleanups without dragging out the vacuum - and knowing she'd have a ready and willing helper! Justin refers to it as "Grammy's vacuum" since he's used ours so much. He ran it through our entire beach house when he was only two years old, picking up sand and dirt for us! It's a great time saver and even little ones can help give your house the "once over!"

MAILING HOLIDAY PACKAGES: ON TIME AND IN ONE PIECEBy Cheryl Gochnauer - http://webmailab.juno.com/webmail/new/21?folder=CHRISTMAS&msgNum=00001Tk0:001AnxfC00000izU&count=1289427992&attachId=0&isUnDisplayableMail=yes&blockImages=0# - Copyright 2005 - Used by permission

Although Cheryl no longer sends out her newsletter, we can learn from her past articles.


Before you mail that present to Aunt Betty, you might want to check with Uncle Sam. With 203 billion letters, advertisements, periodicals and packages under its belt - and that's just this year - the U.S. Postal Service has a pretty good idea of how to get your package across the country or overseas, intact. Here are some suggestions gleaned from their website at http://www.usps.com/.

BOX IT UP:
* Pick a strong box that's big enough to hold not only your present, but also cushioning to protect it.
* Be creative with your cushioning. Bubble wrap and Styrofoam popcorn work well, but using current newspapers adds the perk of providing news from home.
* Remove glass from frames and wrap separately. Stuff hollow gifts like vases with newspaper or packing material to avoid shock damage.
* Take batteries out of gifts, then wrap separately. You don't want that toy switching on during shipment.

SEAL IT UP:
* Before you seal the box, close the lid and shake it. If it rattles, add more cushioning.
* Slip a card inside that describes the contents, plus lists the sender's and recipient's addresses. This will help postal workers if your box is damaged and contents spill out during processing.
* Skip string, cord or twine, which can get tangled in sorting equipment at the post office. Instead, seal the opening and all box seams with two-inch wide clear or brown packaging tape,
reinforced packing tape or paper tape.

MOVE IT OUT:
* If you're reusing a box, cover all previous labels or scratch out old addresses using a heavy black marker.
* Clearly print both the sender's and recipient's addresses, using ink or permanent marker.
* Double-check addresses and use the official two-letter state abbreviations.
* Don't know the zip code? You can find it online at
http://www.usps.com/zip4/.
* Many families are sending care packages to military friends and relatives overseas this Christmas. To have your mail delivered by Dec. 25 to most APO/FPO locations, check the deadline dates at the website.
For more tips for sending this season, visit
www.usps.com/holiday.


LEARNING VS. TESTING
Many of you are familiar with Pat Wyman from www.howtolearn.com. Pat has wonderful resources about learning styles, and I refer to her quite a bit. One of Pat's books is called Learning vs. Testing, Strategies that Bridge the Gap. I'm sure you all have helped your child study for a test until they really knew the material, only to have them make a low grade on the test the next day. There's nothing so disheartening.

A lot of the problem arises because our kids' tests are written for the kind of learner that they aren't! In
Learning vs. Testing, Strategies that Bridge the Gap, Pat shows you some really great ways to bridge this gap, teaching ways to learn math facts in half the time, improve spelling tests scores, and remember vocabulary words. You'll also find how to help your child remember key concepts after reading a chapter. It's a great resource that needs to be on your reading list.


Note: Please keep in mind that getting off sugar has been known to lessen symptoms of hyperactivity or make them go away completely. You can use other sweeteners in place of refined sugar, such as Sweet Leaf Stevia, NuNaturals NuStevia, brown rice syrup, sucanat and other products. These can all be found in a health food store or in the natural foods department of your grocery store. It's worth a try to feel better. ~ Lois



GOD USES ORDINARY PEOPLE IN EXTRAORDINARY WAYSBy Martha Matthews, Editor of The Wives of Excellence Newsletter
http://www.christian-homemaking.com/ - Used by permission


1 Corinthians 1:25-27 "Brothers, think of what you were when you were called. Not many of you were wise by human standards; not many were influential; not many were of noble birth. But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong."


Just Ordinary Shepherds


Luke 2: 8-10 "And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified."


It started out like any other night for some shepherds sitting on a hillside tending their flocks. Like cowboys out on the range, their days were spent caring for their sheep. They rarely saw anyone else except the other shepherds they were with. The nights were cold and the terrain was rugged. Who would have thought an angel of the Lord would appear to these men like these? They were just ordinary shepherds who lead ordinary lives.


Unlikely Candidates


Luke 2:10-12 "But the angel said to them, 'Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.' "


You can probably imagine what thoughts were going through their heads as the angel made his proclamation. They must have wondered, "Why us? We're shepherds. We hold one of the lowest positions in society. Shouldn't he be telling this to the High Priest or the Elders?" But it was no mistake, because they could plainly see the angel standing right there in front of them.


Why did God choose to announce the birth of His son to these shepherds? Why not tell it to someone with more visibility and clout like the Sanhedrin or the Pharisees, someone with access to a podium?


When the Lord chooses to use someone He doesn't choose the predictable candidates. He chooses ordinary people, flaws and all, who are willing to be used for His glory. He chooses the weak to shame the strong, the foolish to shame the wise and the humble to shame the proud.


These shepherds were not considered important by human standards yet the Lord chose them because they had a quality He was looking for--a humble heart. These ordinary guys, whose names we do not know, are remembered in the account of Christ's birth because they possessed hearts that were willing to be used by God. These shepherds were perfect for the job.


One Amazing Testimony


Luke 2:17-18 "And when they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them."


When you are told about something as monumental this, you don't hang around contemplating what it all means. You go check it out! And that's exactly what the shepherds did. They immediately left their flocks to go find the child. And when they found him they told everyone what the angel had said about him. Their testimony was so powerful that everyone was amazed.


Today, God is still looking to use ordinary people with humble hearts to give their testimony to about Christ. No matter what your status in life is God can use you. You don't need to be the CEO of a big corporation, a famous movie star or the President of the United States. All you need to be is willing.


Whether you are a working mom, a stay at home mom, an empty-nester or a grandma, He wants to use you to spread the news about Christ. This Christmas season share the incredible story of Christ's birth. Let God use you to spread the word about His amazing son. After all, it is the "good news of great joy for all people."


Martha is a wife, mother, home manager and the Executive Director of Christian-Homemaking.com, a web site with resources dedicated to helping Christian homemakers succeed. She also has a popular free monthly newsletter for Christian wives called The Wives of Excellence Newsletter. To subscribe visit her web site at http://www.christian-homemaking.com/newsletter.html



A NATIVITY SCENE STORY - OUT OF THE MOUTHS OF BABES
Thanks to Terrie Futrell in Virginia for this great story of her son, now an English professor at Cedarville University. Ryan also gave his permission for this to be included in Heart to Heart.
I was reminded of a little "story" about my son, Ryan, regarding a Nativity Scene. When he was about three years old, we made a Plaster of Paris nativity scene and he painted most of the pieces himself. His father built a little stable, etc. to go with it. Ryan chose to paint the sheep some pretty strange colors, but I allowed him to do "whatever"......one was bright red, one was white with black polka dots, one was completely black, and one was orange! He was quite proud of that set and loved playing with it and looking at it.
One day I came by and noticed that all the pieces were turned over and scattered everywhere on the table and quite a mess had been made. I called Ryan in and said, "What happened here, Ryan?" He frowned for a moment (guess he thought he was in trouble) and then said, "Oh, I don't know ... but I think Baby Jesus did it!" I just laughed and laughed and we still get a chuckle out of that story each Christmas. Even today, if something is all messed up and Ryan is around, I'll say, "Um-m-m-m-m ... Baby Jesus must have done it." I don't mean it in a sacrilegious way, just a sweet memory of my grown up son who is now passing those traditions on to his own children.


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God bless you and your family in a special way!



Thanks be unto God for His indescribable gift!

MERRY CHRISTMAS!
Your Heart to Heart friend,
Lois