Sunday, July 29, 2012

A Dozen Kitchen Tips

by Lois Breneman - Heart to Heart - Copyright July, 2012

What About Eating Cantaloupe after Listeria Deaths?
http://www.foodsafetynews.com/2012/07/case-count-from-cantaloupe-outbreak-officially-rises -to-147/
Last year we heard about people falling ill and dying from listeria infection in 28 states after eating cantaloupe.  I asked my holistic doctor how we can protect ourselves if we continue to eat cantaloupe.  She said hydrogen peroxide can prevent listeria infections by saturating the outside of the cantaloupe with hydrogen peroxide before cutting it.  Set the cantaloupe in a large mixing bowl, pour 1/2 cup hydrogen peroxide over the fruit.  Then using a dishcloth, soak up the liquid and wipe over the the outside of the fruit.  Let set 5 minutes and rinse thoroughly before cutting.

Learn the Codes for Produce ~ Read the label. Fruits and vegetables typically contain stickers that contain a product look up (PLU) code to help identify how the food was produced. Organic produce has a 5-digit code that begins with a 9, conventional produce has a 4-digit code that begins with a 3 or 4, and genetically modified produce has a 5-digit code that begins with an 8."  Thanks to Linda Bahn in Pennsylvania for this information!

For the Freshest Produce grown your own, or buy from a local farm, farmers' market or community supported agriculture (CSA).

You Can Freeze Avocados!  That's right.  You can take advantage of good sales this way.

 How to Keep Parsley and Cilantro Longer ~ When you come home with your produce, wrap two paper towels around your parsley (do the same with cilantro), and store it in a plastic bag in the refrigerator.  Leafy produce will keep longer when kept dry.

Tried and True Method of Keeping Celery Fresh Longer
~ Wrap celery in aluminum foil and store in the refrigerator.  Wash just before ready to use.  This works!

Kill Mold Spores and Keep Berries Fresh Longer ~ When purchasing strawberries, raspberries, blackberries, blueberries, use 1 part white vinegar to 10 parts water to soak the berries for a few minutes.  Drain in a colander until they are completely dry.  Store in an uncovered bowl in the refrigerator. The vinegar mixture kills mold spores on the berries and helps them keep longer, but doesn't affect the flavor. Read more: http://thefrugalgirls.com/2012/04/how-to-keep-strawberries-fresh.html#ixzz216k8IQ4o

Lemon Refresher ~ Place a lemon slice in the bottom of each space of a muffin tin.  Pour a little water over the slices and freeze.  Pop them out and store in a freezer bag to refresh a glass or pitcher of water or ice tea.

Orange Air Freshener ~ For fragrance in your home, simmer water with orange peels and 1/2 each of teaspoon of nutmeg and cinnamon.  Of course, if you have an electric simmering potpourri pot, that would be perfect.

Vanilla Air Freshener ~ Add 2 teaspoons of vanilla extract (or any essential oil) to a pan of water and simmer.  A trick of many realtors is to put vanilla in a coffee cup and heat it in the oven for Open House.  A simmering potpourri pot would work as well.

Essential Oils can be poured into empty plugins for a natural and healthy air freshener.  No chemicals, as other plugins consist of totally.

Kitchen Cabinet Bulletin Board ~ Cork board (from a hardware store) can be glued inside cabinets for an instant bulletin board to keep lots of good information at your fingertips.

Reflexes, Learning, and Behaviour

New and updated edition of ‘A Teacher’s Window into the Child’s Mind’

A very informative and helpful book by Dr. Sally Goddard Blythe
http://www.inpp.org.uk/research-publications/books-publications/books/reflexes-learning

 
This unique and brilliant book explores the physical basis of learning difficulties, dyslexia, dyspraxia, Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD), with particular focus on the role of abnormal reflexes and the effect upon subsequent development.
 
Sally explains how the reflexes of infancy (primitive and postural) can affect the learning ability of the child if they are not inhibited and integrated by the developing brain in the first three years of life. Each reflex is described together with its function in normal development, and its impact upon learning and behaviour, if it remains active beyond the normal period.
 
Simple tests for the reflexes that are crucial to education are described, together with suggestions for suitable remedial intervention. The effect of abnormal reflexes on balance and sensory processing is also described. A brief history of how current methods of intervention designed to correct abnormal reflexes have evolved and a summary of some of the relevant research in the field are included.
 
This book is essential reading for parents, teachers, psychologists, optometrists and anyone involved in the assessment, education and management of children and their problems. It explains why certain children are unable to benefit from the same teaching methods as their peers and why they remain immature in other aspects of their lives.
 
Please click on the following link to order this book from Fernridge for $29.99, about one third the price at Amazon!

Another Way to Look at Those with ADHD

Heard on "Words to Live By" - www.words.net
I loved hearing this, because so many with ADHD get a bad wrap. We all need to look at these dear ones through God's eyes.

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Recipes for School Projects


As your children and grandchildren prepare to start back to school in a few weeks, here are lots of recipes that will help them to make their school projects more interesting.  http://heartfilledhome.blogspot.com/search/label/School%20Projects

Summertime Fun Ideas

by Betty Benson Robertson - Used by permission
  
Bike Scavenger Hunt: Prepare a question sheet ahead of time, with scavenger hunt locations and questions, such as: How many links are in the swing chain at Fremont Elementary School? How many owls are on display in the front window of the gift shop? What two credit cards are displayed on the window of Smith Construction Company? Ride together to the places listed, record answers and then return to place of origin.
 
Crazy Challenges: Work together in setting up various events such as: discus throw using paper plates; javelin throw using straws; shot-put using marshmallows; diving with each person tossing jelly beans into a container of water; one-yard dash by pushing Trix cereal across the floor with their nose, and standing high jump using a donut suspended from the ceiling about four inches above their mouth - one bite wins.
 
Cupcake Decorating Contest: Make cupcakes and divide them among the children. Provide creative supplies such as icing, sprinkles, M & M's, raisins, and nuts. Each child decorates cupcakes. Pour glasses of milk and eat the cupcakes!
 
Frisbee Golf: Frisbee Golf is played like miniature golf except Frisbees are used instead of balls and clubs. Find an area with several trees. Attach a large number to each tree. Each child tosses a Frisbee to the first number, keeping track of how many tries it takes. Continue through the course until the last number is reached.
 
Gigantic Scavenger Hunt: Each child takes a large trash sack to a heavily littered area and hunts for trash. Encourage your children to continue being "Trash Detectives" to help care for God's beautiful world.
H. O. P. Day: "H. O. P." stands for "Help Other People." Make a list of things the children can do for neighbors or friends. This might include mowing lawns, washing cars, washing windows, or writing a letter for an elderly person.
 
It's A Secret: Select a place your children will enjoy visiting such as the zoo, a museum or a restaurant. For added fun, let each child guess the secret destination.
 
Paper Airplane Mania: Create airplanes from leftover school notebook paper or scrap paper of some kind. Hold a contest to see who wins the highest in flight and farthest in flight.

Note from Lois: For the "Gigantic Scavenger Hunt," because unknown trash items may be involved, it would be a good idea to wear gloves.  We never know what is out there.

Natural Insect Control to Spray around the House

That time of the year is fast approaching when spiders and their webs will be found in abundance in and around many of our homes.  Master Gardener, Jerry Baker, suggests a natural way of getting rid of these nasty critters.  He says to get a package of chewing tobacco and soak it in a gallon of boiling water until it cools.  Strain the liquid into another container or small bucket. Fill a hose-end sprayer with a cup of tobacco juice and 1/2 cup lemon dish washing liquid and spray around the outside of your house.  
 
You might want to shop for chewing tobacco when you won't be seen by friends and neighbors though - maybe early in the morning.  :)  A long time ago a neighbor saw me when I bought several packs at our local drug store!  I don't know if she actually saw that I bought chewing tobacco, but if she did, I am sure she knew that neither my husband nor I would chew that nasty stuff!  She was my Avon lady, and is in heaven, and I'm sure she knows the real truth now for sure!

A Newborn's Conversation with God

A baby  asked God, "They tell me you are sending me to  earth tomorrow, but how am I going to  live there being so small and helpless?"   

God said, "Your angel will be  waiting for you and will take care of you."  

The child further inquired, "But  tell me, here in heaven I don't have to do anything but sing and smile to  be happy."

God said, "Your angel  will sing for you and will also smile for you.  And you will feel your angel's love  and be very happy."

Again the  small child asked, "And how am I going to be  able to understand when people talk to  me if I don't know the language?"  

God said, "Your angel will tell  you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hear, and with much  patience and care, your angel will teach you how to speak."  

"And what am I going to do when I  want to talk to you?"

God said,  "Your angel will place your hands together and  will teach you how to pray."  

"Who will protect me?"  

God said, "Your angel will defend  you even if it means risking its life."  

"But I will always be sad because  I will not see you anymore."

God  said, "Your angel will always talk to you about  Me and will teach you the way to come  back to Me, even though I will always be next to  you."

At that moment there was  much peace in Heaven, but voices from Earth could be heard and the child hurriedly  asked, "God, if I am to leave now,  please tell me my angel's name."  

God said, You will simply call  her, "Mom."
 


Precious Gems

Thanks, ladies, for these Precious Gems!

My friend from Atlanta was here last weekend.  She told me the cutest funny story about her 4 year old grandson, Eli.  He was sitting beside his Grandma Jane, and he looked up at her and said, “Grandma Jane, why are you so old?”  So Jane proceeds to explain to him how she was born a long time ago and how he should remember that about four years ago, he was just a tiny baby and now he is older…and he said, “ Yes, but my skin is still straight!” ~ Elinor in Virginia  

From my 2 year old: "Mama, when I get big I'm going to grow a baby in my tummy." (a long pause) "Next week is my birthday and I'll be 3. That means...I'll be big. (pause) Mama, there is a baby growing inside my tummy now, and it's going to come out on my birthday 'cause I'll be big then!!!" (extreme excitement from the child, and Mommy wondering how to teach this lesson...) ~ Rosie in Central Asia

During breakfast this morning, I asked the kids if they knew what is special about today.  They quickly replied, "Your anniversary!"  When I asked if they knew which anniversary it is, Addison (8) correctly said, "The 14th."  He then followed with, "This is your unlucky anniversary.  Next year's anniversary will be better."  And onto the next subject he went.  :) ~ Ellen Rachel

Ten Combinations for Frozen Fruit Popsicles

by Lois Breneman - Heart to Heart -  Copyright July, 2012

How would you like ten combinations for 100% fruity frozen treats (with no sugar) in the form of popsicles to make with your family for this super hot summer?  Of course, you can completely blend the fruit in a blender with juice, water, or milk, and simply pour into popsicle molds.
But instead of the above method that I've always used before, I wanted to make a summer treat that would show off the beautiful colors, shapes and designs in a fruit combination.  First I gathered together a variety of fruit, such as kiwi, oranges, cherries, grapes, strawberries, bananas, peaches, mango, blueberries, crushed or pineapple tidbits as well as apricots.  The pineapples and apricots could be fresh or canned in their own juice.

For spectacular texture, color and design, you can use a kiwi slice, a wedge of an orange slice, a jeweled strawberry slice, pineapple tidbits, halves of cherries or grapes, or small chunks of banana.  The secret is to place the fruit along the sides of a popsicle mold, so it will be visible when removed from the mold.  Kiwi and strawberry slices especially add a great look.
Why not have the children (of all ages - teens included) help assemble these individualized popsicles! You only need about two or three different fruits per popsicle, and they can all be a little different. That's the beauty of it.  Another option would be to make a different version each week.  The most difficult part of this activity will be waiting for them to freeze!

Strawberry Kiwi Pops
Put strawberries and milk (or coconut milk or yogurt) in the blender and add a little stevia for sweetener.  Place one or two kiwi slices along the edge of a popsicle mold.  Place halves of seeded cherries along the edge, and stick in a few pieces of a peach or pineapple if there is enough room.  Slowly spoon the strawberry mixture into the mold, making sure the fruit is clinging to the sides.  Slip a knife down into the mold to remove any air bubbles.

Strawberry Blueberry Pops
Place strawberry slices along the sides of a popsicle mold.  Puree blueberries with milk, coconut milk, or vanilla yogurt, and a little stevia.  Spoon the blueberry mixture into the popsicle mold, making sure the strawberry slices are clinging to the sides.  Slip a knife down into the mold to remove any air bubbles.

Cherry Yogurt Pops
Pit and halve several bing cherries and place them along the sides of a popsicle mold.  Spoon in vanilla or cherry yogurt.

Orange Pineapple Kiwi Pops
Place peeled orange slice wedges or chunks along the sides of a popsicle mold.  Slip in a kiwi slice or two for extra color and design.  Spoon in canned crushed pineapple in its own juice until the mold is filled.  Another option would be to make a puree of pineapple in its own juice to spoon into the mold.

Peachy Pineapple Pops
Place chunks of peach along the sides of a popsicle mold.  Fill up the mold with canned crushed pineapple in its own juice.  Another option would be to make a puree of pineapple in its own juice to spoon into the mold.

Kiwi Banana Apricot Pops
Place slices of kiwi and banana along the sides of a popsicle mold.  Spoon in chopped canned apricot in its own juice until filled.  Another option would be to make a puree of apricot in its own juice to spoon into the mold.

Strawberry Vanilla Pops
Place several slices of red ripe strawberries along the sides of a popsicle mold.  Spoon in vanilla yogurt around the strawberries.

Creamy Grape Pops
Cut grapes in half and place along the side of the popsicle mold.  Blend vanilla yogurt with a little grape juice, and slowly pour into the popsicle mold.

Kiwi Mango Pineapple Pops
Place several slices of kiwi along the sides of the popsicle mold.  Place chopped mango along the sides as well.  Spoon in crushed pineapples with pineapple juice.

Patriotic Pops
Place strawberry slices along the sides of the mold.  Puree blueberries with vanilla yogurt.  Spoon a little blueberry mixture into the popsicle mold.  Then spoon in some vanilla yogurt, making sure the strawberry slices are clinging to the sides.


As you can see, this is a very versatile way to make healthy and beautiful popsicles.  The possibilities are unlimited!  I'm sure your family will come up with even more winning combinations. 

To release the frozen goodness inside the mold, run warm water over the bottom and sides.

A coffee filter or baking liner is perfect for slipping the popsicle stick through to prevent tasty drips from settling on clothing being worn by the "licker." 

However, if you do find berry stains on clothing, boil some water in your tea kettle.  Lay out the stained clothing flat in the sink.  Then holding the tea kettle about two feet above the stain, slowly pour a steam of boiling water on the stain, and watch the berry stain disappear like magic!

Monday, July 23, 2012

Safe and Natural Produce Wash

by Lois Breneman - Heart to Heart 
Copyright June, 2012

My nutritionist, Stephanie Hein, gave me this recipe for safely washing produce when I asked for a better alternative.  It's very inexpensive as well, compared to the ones available in stores.  When you mix this up, be sure to use a "large" bowl, because otherwise it will fizz up and overflow.  Children would love helping you make this easy recipe, because it would be a great science experiment for them as well!

1 cup water
1 cup vinegar (I used white distilled.  By the way, there is no vinegar smell because of the baking soda.)
2 Tbsp. baking soda
2 Tbsp. lemon juice  (To save time, I added 2 extra tablespoons of vinegar rather than squeezing a lemon)

Pour into a spray bottle.  Spray produce liberally and allow to set for 5 minutes, then rinse well.  If you have a hand sprayer for rinsing, even the friction of the water helps to remove pesticides.

Sunday, July 1, 2012

Tasty Tidbits

Beautiful and Tasty Appetizer or Snack ~ Place three chunks (1 each of pineapple, banana and strawberry) on a toothpick. Dip one side into dark chocolate.  Place on wax paper and allow chocolate to harden.

Dip Strawberries in Yogurt and Freeze on wax paper.  You will get an amazing appetizer or snack!  Cut them in half while frozen for an even more beautiful presentation!

Veggie and Dip Cups ~ Using clear plastic bathroom cups or clear juice glasses, pour a few tablespoons of veggie dip into the bottom of each cup.  Add sticks of celery, carrots along with strips of red, yellow and green peppers for a colorful appetizer, salad, or snack.

Roasted Green Beans with olive oil and fresh Parmesan.  Sprinkle with seasoned salt.

Roasted Asparagus with grated lemon zest.  Sprinkle with seasoned salt.

Healthy Breakfast Smoothie ~ In a blender, process 2 ripe bananas, 2 cups ice, 1/3 cup yogurt, 1/2 cooked oatmeal, 1/3 cup almonds, and a little honey.

Fruit and Veggie Smoothie ~ In a blender or Vitamix, add: 2 cups filtered water, 1 Tbsp. coconut oil, 1 Tbsp. honey, 2 Tbsp. fresh lemon juice, 1 cup kale, 1 box strawberries.  Add a few blueberries to get rid of the green color, which may turn off most kids.  On the other hand I have a four year old grandson who loves kale.  His favorite color is also green!

How God Granted Me One of the Desires of My Heart

by Lois Breneman - June, 2012

For years I dreamed of someday having a granddaughter who would be interested in learning how to sew. When Ryan Elizabeth was born almost five years ago, I made her a large pink and green quilted wall hanging of machine embroidered designs, including a butterfly, pink koala bear, bird, flowers and a pin cushion with needles sticking in it. I asked her mother to show her the pin cushion and tell her that I'd teach her how to sew someday. 

Recently her beloved Paw Paw and I spent a week with her family in their home.  I did crafts with her and made her some clothes, after helping her make another pillow.  The pillow matched her dearly loved stuffed animal, Jaggy.  She was mesmerized, standing by my sewing machine with her eyes open wide and her mouth open, as she watched.  She learned what a bobbin is, where it goes in the sewing machine!  Soon as I sewed, I noticed she was at the table using circles of fleece as pattern pieces (her own idea), and cutting around them!  The circles that she used for pattern pieces were later turned into a flower which I glued to a clip for her hair.  So I showed her how to pin the pattern piece to the paper before cutting, and she proceeded to cut out a stack of circles, concentrating intently! 

During the week I made Ryan a sundress with little red apples in the print, a white eyelet skirt with a hot pink ribbon laced through the holes around the skirt, as well as a lined Jaggy dress with two layers of a very full skirt.  Then we had an extensive photo shoot with her wearing each new outfit.  She always managed to get a swirling segment in each photo shoot.  She loves swirling full skirts, so I will have to make her a complete circle skirt next!  With the scraps of Jaggy fabric, I made Ryan a lined, padded purse with a pocket, a rose glued to a hair clip for her hair, a wide headband, a hair ribbon, and a bookmark.  There are still a few scraps left over to add special touches to handmade cards for her which I know she will love!  We also did a lot of crafts that week as well as the following week during our family vacation with all twelve in our family.

While together one evening I mentioned to my four year old granddaughter that she and I have a lot in common - that we both like pink, purple, ruffles and other similar things.  Ryan excitedly chimed in, adding, "And sewing and crafts and clouds!"  The night before we were looking for animals and fish in the sky together.  We even found a dinosaur, along with a porpoise and Scottie dog.

I thank the Lord for graciously answering my prayer in granting me a desire of my heart -- that of having a young granddaughter who would love sewing and crafts as much as she does.  The Lord deeply cares about the desires of our hearts!  Her older brother, Justin, loves doing crafts and even sewing projects such as pillows!  I had planned on teaching them both how to sew on a button during family vacation, but time didn't allow, so that's something we have to do the next time we're together!  I keep counting my blessings, and thanking the Lord for each of our precious grandchildren!

Precious Gems

Savannah (4) never ceases to keep me on my toes.  Tonight we passed an ambulance and she immediately prayed, "Dear God, please help the boy or girl in that ambulance to be okay."  My heart swelled with pride at her sensitivity, knowing she remembered her own sister being loaded into an ambulance before.  Then she noticed my teary eyes and followed it up with, "Don't worry, Mom.  God said the kid was going to be fine.  He said, "Anything for you, Darlin'!"  Sigh. ~ Lauren in Virginia 

Got a giggle this morning. Darren picked up the hairbrush and started to brush Savannah's hair. She quickly responded, "No no no! I do my own hair now." He backed off and told her he didn't know that. Hands on her hips, she looked at him and replied, "Dad, seriously? I'm four!" and shaking her head she stalked off to fix her hair. :) ! Lauren in Virginia

While we were in Montana, I took the grandkids to see Papaw in the hospital.  As we were on our way home, Timothy (11) said, "Let's go to Bob Ward's (a sporting goods store).  Victoria (13) said, "I want to go to the mall."   Not to be left out, nearly 3-year-old Samara piped up and said, "I want to go to the car wash!  But I cry in the car wash!"  Her sister explained that when the big brushes descend on the car and begin scrubbing, Samara gets scared and begins crying.  However, once they get outside the car wash, she is fine and wants to go through again!  Guess it must be something like the terror - and thrill - of a roller coaster ride! ~ Nancy in Pennsylvania
 
So this morning Karlie (9), pointed out what she thought was our cat on a stump. Instead it was a couple of raccoons (on a stump in the lake).  I told her they were mating. She asked, "What is mating?"  I answered, "Go ask Mom." - Mike, husband of my niece, Julie in Washington ~ Lois

Raylie (6), has been saying a lot lately.  She told me, "I love you, Mommy, more than any other girl in the world, but I love Daddy 3rd most out of all the boys in the world because I love God and Jesus the most!  Because without God and Jesus, none of us would be here." ~ Julie in Washington

Our granddaughter, Ryan Elizabeth (4), graduated from Pre-K on a Friday, and was anxiously planning to go to kindergarten the following Monday.  She even packed her own lunch!  She was so disappointed that she has to wait a couple months for kindergarten, so I told her that we'd play "kindergarten" together when we visit.  We did.  I taught her how to read nine "at" words with consonants in front.  "Cat" was one of those words, so after she knew those, she asked me to teach her some "dog" words.  Next we did "og" words like dog, fog, frog, log, bog.  Later that week I taught our grandson, Daniel, also 4, how to read the "at" words.  I loved seeing them think so hard as they sounded out each letter.  Such a privilege for me! ~ Lois

While visiting some of our daughter's family recently, I was mentioning how I had been making angel food cakes to give away, after I learned that I was allergic to egg whites.  When Ryan Elizabeth (4) heard that I gave the cakes away to friends, rather than making them all for Paw Paw, she looked up at me with a serious frown on her face, and asked, "Why did you give them away?  Wasn't Paw Paw behaving?"  ~ :) Lois

Some Things I've Learned Over 34 Years of Marriage

Some Things I've Learned Over 34 Years of Marriage

http://www.guardyourmarriage.com/apps/blog/
by Eileen Rife - Copyright June 18, 2010 - Used by permission
  
Freshman year. Southeastern Bible College, 1973. I sat in a wingback chair during a Welcome New Student Tea. The young man sitting on the floor began to ask me one question after another. I'd never been asked so many questions. Turned out that young man was Chuck Rife. The last question he asked me that day was, "Do you have a ride to church tonight?" It was Wednesday. I didn't have a car; he didn't have a car. But he knew a married couple on campus who did and were willing to give us a ride.
 
Thus, a friendship began which deepened into a love relationship. Three years later, I was walking down the aisle toward my valiant prince who had ridden up on his noble steed and swept me off my feet into everlasting bliss.
 
It wasn't long into our marriage when I realized my valiant prince had a few chinks in his armor and his helmet was a bit askew. Even more disconcerting was the fact that his lovely princess had a few flaws of her own, and marriage only seemed to accentuate them.
 
We moved into our first apartment--campus housing--for $75 month, furnished with Rescue Mission finds and family/friend wedding gifts. Life was sweet. We would come home at night and flip on the kitchen lights. Chuck would grab one of my brand new kitchen towels and smack roaches on the walls and counters. Enter one of our first marital conflicts--I detest bug guts all over my counters.
 
But it gets better--Chuck told me he would do the bills for a year, then he would like for me to do them, which meant for the rest of my life. Needless to say, in those first few years, there were many bounced checks. Again, marital conflict.
 
Reflecting on our years together, I sat down, pulled out my journal and began to note some of the things I've learned over 34 years of marriage.
 
Stuff like:
 
1) If I want to have any cover, I have to nail the sheets to my side of the bed.
2) That a raised toilet seat is not a personal affront.
3) That we actually do have several things in common, like which way the toilet paper rolls.
4) That silence means "I'm thinking" about that.
5) That when my husband walks into the kitchen wearing goggles and with jackhammer in hand, I'd better prepare to call 911.
6) That when I can't find Chuck, he's either playing golf or hidden in a hole out front (he'll have to tell you about that some time).
7) I've also learned that marriage really is like a three-ring circus--first comes the engagement ring, then comes the wedding ring, and then comes the suffeRING. But that God intends to use the suffering to make me more like Jesus.
8) I've learned that marriage will test every fiber in my spiritual fabric.
9) I've learned that the NO.1 problem in marriage is selfishness.
10) That the chief end of marriage is not my happiness, but my holiness.
11) That the greater the difficulties, the more opportunity I have to become like Him.
12) I've learned that marriage can last a lifetime, 'cause I saw it modeled by our parents.
13) I've learned that Chuck can't be "God" to me. The LORD must be God--my number one Husband, Provider, and Protector--my security. This has been a growing process and still is. And God has used sexual difficulties, children's issues, family background differences, and financial stressors to consistently bump my focus back to Him.
14) I've learned that the closer we grow to God, the closer we grow to one another.
15) I've learned that words can wound or heal.
16) I've learned that marriage is a primary forum for practicing forgiveness.
17) I've learned that the 7 hardest words in the English language are "I was wrong, will you forgive me?"
18) I've learned that marriage is my NO.1 Ministry, because a strong marriage makes a strong family. Strong families make strong churches; strong churches make strong communities; and strong communities make a strong world.
19) For this reason, I've learned that marriage is on Satan's number one hit list.
20) I've learned that our marriage is a reflection of Jesus and His Bride, the Church.
 
So I ask myself? What kind of picture am I offering to those around me?
 
My son-in-law, Nathan, surprised me the other day with mounted pics he had taken of Sri Lanka and Washington State.  He enjoys photography and these shots showed it! He knows just the right way to angle the camera, the right light exposure, the right equipment to use to capture the desired effect. All with clear, sharp focus.
 
That's my aim: to grow a godly marriage with clear, sharp focus--intent on one purpose: becoming like Christ and offering the world a picture of His relationship with us.

A Fresh Perspective

by Stacy Miller - Used by permission
 
Recently I've been going through a lot of adversity, sickness, and trials.  My husband hasn't had any work for over a month, so I am carrying the full weight of the bills.  On top of this, I found a $400 error in the checkbook, and it wasn't in our favor.  I've been dealing with a sinus infection for over ten days and it just doesn't want to let go.  And there are all kinds of rumors going around at work regarding upcoming changes that are enough to twist your stomach in knots.  I hate to admit it, but in the midst of all of this, I've failed to faithfully read the Word.  Instead, I've been guilty of running to the Wii to vent my anger and frustration through exercise.  If I don't do the Wii, then I want to escape through watching television.
 
Now I have to admit -- the Wii has been really good for me.  It has helped to increase my lung capacity to where the asthma issues aren't quite as intense or as frequent.  And the exercise has nearly alleviated my monthly female issues, which is all the more reason to want to keep using the Wii.  However, I read something the other day that made me realize that when I run to these other things instead of the Lord, I am making it a god.
 
I decided to make a change and get back to reading the Word.  I felt led to read Psalm 91 in The Living Bible because sometimes reading a familiar portion of scripture in a different version can give me a fresh perspective.  There were a few things that really stood out to me. 
 
Psalm 91:1 
We live within the shadow of the Almighty, sheltered by the God who is above all gods.
(If I want to be sheltered by the God who is above all gods, I need to LIVE within His shadow -- I need to LIVE in HIM, not running to other things that can so easily become a functional god for me.)
91:2 This I declare, that He alone is my refuge, my place of safety; He is my God, and I am trusting Him.
(I need to focus on Him being a refuge for me and remember what safety there is in dwelling in Him.  I need to remind myself that HE is my God, and I WILL trust in Him, instead of focusing on my problems.)
91:4  His faithful promises are your armor.
(There is no armor like the armor of God.  I need to be meditating on His promises because they are the armor that will deliver me from the fears that assail me.)
91:9 For Jehovah is my refuge!  I choose the God above all gods to shelter me. 
(The word "choose" really stood out to me in this verse.  It is MY choice how I am going to respond to the daily frustrations and fears.  Am I going to run to the refrigerator and gorge on junk food?  Am I going to escape through watching TV?  Am I going to play on the Wii for hours just so I can focus on something besides my problems?  It is MY choice.)
91:12 They (the angels) will steady you with their hands to keep you from stumbling against the rocks on the trail. 
(When I'm on a "rocky trail," those angels are there to help me and keep me from stumbling and losing my way.)
91:16 I will satisfy him with a full life and give him my salvation.
(Nothing on this earth has the ability to satisfy me and give me a full life like the Lord.)
 
Viewing this portion of scripture in a different version really did give me a much-needed, new perspective.  I have noticed a difference already in my thoughts and my attitude.  While my body may still feel the effects of this nasty sinus infection, at least my spirit has been refreshed.  I may still have the same trials before me, but now I don't feel so alone and overwhelmed.

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15 Cleaning Tips

Teach your children these practical tricks of the trade, by having them help.   What a great education they will be receiving - one they can take with them into adulthood!
 
Swiffer Wetjet Refill ~ Dip the tip of an empty Swiffer Wetjet solution bottle into boiling water for about 10 seconds and the lid will twist off.  Use a gripper or a towel.  Refill with your preferred cleaning solution at appropriate dilution and re-cap to save dollars!
 
Clean the Lint Buildup from a Clothes Dryer's Trap ~ with a chopstick.
 
How to Remove Lipstick Stains from Clothing ~ Spray with hairspray, then launder.
 
Clean Bottom of Iron with a Dryer Sheet ~ Set your iron on low, and rub the iron over the dryer sheet until the buildup disappears.

Refresh Your Linen Closet ~ with baking soda.  Place an open box of baking soda next to your sheets and towels to stave off mustiness.
 
Citrus Peel as a Disposal Refresher ~ Save citrus peel to put down the disposal to clean and deodorize it.
 
Use Cornmeal as a Grease Absorber ~ Cornmeal absorbs grease on light colored fabric or upholstery.  Pour enough over the soiled area and let set for 15 to 30 minutes. Vacuum to remove the grains.
 
Use an Emery Board to Save an Eraser ~ To revive a dried-out eraser or clean a smudged one, lightly rub it over an emery board. The board's fine grain will shave off the eraser's old top layer, leaving you with more mistake-removing surface.
 
How to Remove Sticky Labels ~ Use a hair dryer!
 
Shine Brass and Copper with a paste made from a few tablespoons of white vinegar and equal parts salt and flour. Apply with a soft cloth, rinse, and dry.
 
Prevent Rusty Cans with fingernail polish.  Paint it on the bottom of cans to prevent rusty rings on the tub or shower.
 
Repair Scratches in Hardwood Floors by rubbing a shelled walnut into the scratch.  Their natural oils help hide the flaws.

How to Clean the Glass on Your Oven Door ~ Add about a 1/4 cup of baking soda in a dish and mix just enough water to make a slightly runny paste. Spread your mixture all over the oven door glass - and the door if necessary.  Wait 15-30 minutes depending on the severity, then wipe off.  If there are still spots remaining, they should easily scrub off with a Magic Eraser. 

How to Clean Scratch Marks off of Dishes ~ These scratches are often caused by nickel in flatware.  Rub Bar Keepers Friend (liquid) on the scratches and if that doesn't remove them, try the more abrasive version, the powder (like a cleanser).  Rub in with a cleaning cloth and apply elbow grease.

Cleaning House: A Mom's Twelve-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement

Book by Kay Wills Wyma - Thanks to Joyce Quam in Virginia for this good information!
Joyce says, "A dear friend brought this book to Bible 
Study so eager to share it with others. As a mother 

herself she could relate to its message of "generations
of entitlement" and wanted to share this mother's 
story.  The book,'Cleaning House....' by Kay Willis Wyma
is both convicting and insightful and just filled with 
personal testimonies and humor. It is a "must read." 
 
http://www.amazon.com/Cleaning-House-Twelve-Month-
Entitlement-ebook/dp/B007WKFM7C/ref=tmm_kin_title_
0?ie=UTF8&m=AG56TWVU5XWC2&qid=1339037936&sr=1-1
 
A quote from the link above:
Do your kids think that clean, folded clothes magically appear in their drawers? Do they roll their eyes when you suggest they clean the bathroom? Do you think it’s your job to pave their road to success? As parents, so often we hover, race in to save, and do everything we can for our kids—unintentionally reinforcing their belief that the world revolves around them.

When Kay Wyma realized that an attitude of entitlement had crept into her home, this mother of five got some attitude of her own. Cleaning House is her account of a year-long campaign to introduce her kids to basic life skills. From making beds to grocery shopping to refinishing a deck chair, the Wyma family experienced for themselves the ways meaningful work can transform self-absorption into earned self-confidence and concern for others.

With irresistible humor and refreshing insights, Kay candidly details the ups and downs of removing her own kids from the center of the universe. The changes that take place in her household will inspire you to launch your own campaign against youth entitlement. As Kay says, “Here’s to seeing what can happen when we tell our kids, ‘I believe in you, and I’m going to prove it by putting you to work.’”

At the link above, you can read reviews by Elisa Morgan, Jim Daly, Joe White, Dr. Howard Hendricks, and Governor Mike Huckabee.


About the Author:
Kay Wills Wyma has five kids, ages four to fourteen, and one SUV with a lot of carpool miles. She holds a bachelor's from Baylor University and an MIM from the American Graduate School of International Management (Thunderbird). Before transitioning to stay-at-home mom, she held positions at the White House, the Staubach Company, and Bank of America. She and her husband, Jon, live with their family in the Dallas area.