Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Pull the Kids into the Act

Excerpt taken from A New Day for Your Marriage, 21 Days to a Healthier Relationship, copyright © 2003 Chuck and Eileen Rife - www.guardyourmarriage.comwww.eileenrife.com - Used by permission

Kids love to plan surprises, especially for mom and dad!  Why not solicit their help the next time you want to create a romantic interlude for you and your mate?

One year Eileen and her three young daughters surprised Chuck after work. They planned a "King for the Night" evening complete with crown, streamers, fancy table and foods, and a white butcher paper runner from the front door to the table. The kids had fun working on the event and were instructed that as soon as daddy came through the door and delivered hugs and kisses to each one, they were to go to their rooms where games and snacks awaited them. While Chuck and Eileen savored a candlelight dinner for two, the girls occasionally took a peak out their bedroom doors to see mommy and daddy enjoy their romantic feast.

Another time for Chuck and Eileen's anniversary, the girls helped mom decorate the deck with flowers, greenery, white mini-lights, and white cloth and candles for the picnic table. They were proud of their accomplishment and it boosted their confidence that mom and dad loved each other - an important thing in this age of rampant divorce.

Many times, Chuck has pulled the girls aside to help him surprise Eileen with a special gift to say, "I love you; you mean the world to me!"

Pulling the kids into the act helps them feel like valued team members, giving them the opportunity to invest in family love and togetherness.

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