The Secret Box & Communication in Marriage

THE SECRET BOX      

      As a new bride, Aunt Edna moved into the small home on her husband's ranch.  She put a shoe box on a shelf in her closet and asked her husband never to touch it.         

     For 50 years Uncle Jack left the box alone, until Aunt Edna was old and dying.  One day when he was putting their affairs in order, he found the box again and thought it might hold something important.
     Opening it, he found two doilies and $82,500 in cash. He took the box to her and asked about the contents. 

     "My mother gave me that box the day we married," she explained. "She told me to make a doily to help ease my frustrations every time I got mad at you."
     Uncle Jack was very touched that in 50 years she'd only been mad at him twice.  "What's the $82,500 for?" he asked.
     "Oh, that's the money I made selling the doilies."

 

 

COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE
by Lois Breneman - Copyright 2005 - Heart to Heart

        "A man thrives on appreciation (and respect) because it directly nurtures his male side.  A woman thrives on communication and love because it directly nurtures her female side." 

        How about writing a special note to your husband, or making a card for him, expressing your appreciation for him?  By doing that, you will be fulfilling his need for appreciation and part of your need to communicate.  If you find that you do not have enough time for communication with him, ask him if the two of you might be able to set aside a half hour on a certain night after the children are in bed to talk about various things.  Maybe you'll want to set aside a couple nights, but you may need to ask.  Our husbands can't read our minds, and pouting never helps.  Work on communication, unless you want to be making doilies for the rest of your life!