Monday, September 26, 2011

Marriage Assessment


Excerpt taken from A New Day for Your Marriage, 21 Days to a Healthier Relationship, copyright © Chuck and Eileen Rife, 2003. www.guardyourmarriage.com
 
http://www.eileenrife.com - Used by permission 
  
We have often viewed September as a month of beginnings. With the kids back in school and a new season right around the corner, we like to take a deep breath and assess where we are in our marital relationship, as well as other areas of our lives.

Perhaps you'd like to do the same. We've provided a 10 statement assessment you can use to evaluate where you are right now in your marriage. Take a few minutes to review the following list, placing your number (one, lowest and ten, highest) beside each statement.

This sheet would make a good conversation starter for your date night this week.
 
Rate yourselves on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest) in each of the following areas:
 
1.     We include God in our marriage.                                ____
2.     We talk about our expectations.                                  ____
3.     We write love letters to each other.                             ____
4.     We practice effective communication.                         ____
5.     We manage stressors the day they occur.                  ____
6.     We have forgiven each other for past hurts.               ____
7.     We enhance our romance weekly.                              ____
8.     We make time for each other every day.                     ____
9.     We minister to others together.                                    ____
10.   We are kind to one another.                                         ____
11.   We treat each other to an occasional surprise.            ____
12.   We show love to one another in front of the kids.        ____
13.   We pray together every day.                                        ____
14.   We play and laugh together every day.                        ____
15.   We show the fruit of the Spirit in our marriage.            ____
16.   We show honor to one another.                                    ____
17.   We speak the truth to one another in love.                   ____
18.   We hold each other accountable.                                 ____
19.   We rejoice in our differences.                                       ____
20.   We are helping our remarriage flourish.                       ____
21.   We enjoy a fulfilling sexual relationship.                       ____
 
Now choose ONE of the statements to focus on this week.
What will you do to raise your number?
Put your plan into action!

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